• Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Get Your Priorities Straight, Sister!

    Time has to be one of the most widely used excuses ever. We use it to get out of doing something, to push projects to the side, and we use it to justify the things we say and do. Being a working mom with an active duty husband who is frequently gone, the time excuse isn’t really an excuse, it’s a part of my life. I used to find myself constantly apologizing for the crunched schedule that is my life, but why should I? Everyone who knows me, knows that my cup-runneth-over. to put it lightly. Between not getting home until 5:00 pm, to cooking dinner, cleaning the house, trying to…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    5 Steps to Reset After You Have Lost Your $h!t

    If there is one thing that every mother on earth has in common with other moms it is that we have all lost our shit a few times. Yes- we also have many other things in common despite our differences, but we all unconditionally love our children, we all want them to be happy and healthy, and our love runs so deep that we would be willing to sacrifice our life for our child if it came down to it. Not to beat the point to death, but we all love our children deeply, but sometimes they can be downright little jerks and when you add that onto an already…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Mental Health First, Momma!

    It seems like the topic of mental health only comes up after an awful tragedy happens. Perhaps you heard of a friend who passed away from suicide or there was another murder or mass shooting on the news. It seems that as soon as we begin the healing process of the last tragedy, another one comes from left field and slaps us with the brutal realization that there are people struggling with mental health all around us. We try to peel back the layers of what happened that led that person to commit suicide or murder and some of them had the signs written all over the wall and sometimes…

  • Motherhood

    Why I Don’t Feel Guilty About Working Full Time

    I can’t tell you how many times I have heard comments from other moms asking me if I feel guilty about choosing to work full time instead of staying home. Or the hundreds of times over the years I have heard moms ragging on another mom’s decision to go back into the work force. A study conducted by workingmom.com found that 57% of moms feel guilty about working. Conversely, a Harvard Business School study found that kids actually fare better in the long run when their mothers work outside of the home! The whole subject of being a working mom is a hot topic and one size definitely doesn’t fit…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Parental Separation Anxiety: Why Summer Camp Was A Must For Me

    When a good friend of mine reached out to me with the idea that our daughters would go to summer camp together this year, I was over the moon ecstatic. My first thought: this would be the perfect preparation for kindergarten, and so far at day one I realize that…I have a lot of work to do, not so much my baby girl. I didn’t realize just how severe my parental separation anxiety was because up to this point I’ve never had to walk away and believe that strangers will keep my daughter safe, and the situation is more emotional than I ever imagined. The way parenthood has played out…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Motherhood

    My Home Is My Haven -Even On The Worst Of Days

    Home is my haven, but I’m going to divulge that sometimes there are days when home itself is what drives me mad in the first place even when there is no real explanation as to why -days like today. *takes a deep breath* The thing is, I woke up in this feisty mood and I have no idea why other than the fact that I’m a woman with a neverending list of responsibilities and a repetition of housework that can sometimes be maddening. I keep telling myself that it’s okay, that this is normal, that this is the life of a mom and sometimes we hit limits. But, the funny…

  • Motherhood

    Forget Perfect, Let’s Be Present Mothers

    Wherever You Are Be All There. -Jim Elliot I’ve decidedly grown to despise the word perfect over the past few years. It’s no longer in my vocabulary as a way to compare myself to others in any way, shape, or form -and I’m glad I have because no one is. When I relate my actions today to the mom I was one, two, three, four, even five years ago…I don’t, haha. You see, removing this idea that I could become a perfect anything has saved me from a lot of pain, heartache, and especially mom guilt. The only time we should ever use the term “perfect” in a sentence is if…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I’m Open and Honest With My Daughter About Mental Health

    Being honest with my daughter about mental health has always been a priority for me. Truthfully, I never had a choice, I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life, and even when I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been, it’s still there haunting me. I always imagined that it would eventually just fade away but if anything motherhood just brought on an entirely new mental health journey to face. Being the incredibly emotional and sensitive person that I am the last thing I could do was avoid the topic of mental health. “You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Get My Happy & Healthy Back – An Emotional & Physical Detox

    Are you… Waking up tired even after a full nights sleep and remaining fatigued? Suffering from headaches? Finding it hard to keep your mind sharp or on track? Experiencing skin irritation, dryness, redness, or acne? Have irregular menstrual cycles or menstrual problems? Finding it hard to lose weight? Letting your negative emotions get the upper hand? Suffering from inflammation? Experiencing bloating and constipation? Craving certain foods like sweets and carbs? Losing your appetites? Tired of the dark circles under your eyes? Experiencing mood swings or irritability? Suffering from bad breath or body odor? Maybe you’re experiencing one or two of these things, maybe even five or more! If you are,…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    The Ugly Side Of Motherhood Nobody Prepared Us For

    We have all heard the phrase ‘the good, the bad, and the ugly’ and when I thought about this phrase regarding motherhood, I assumed that the good was the sweet baby giggles, that the bad was the lack of sleep and that the ugly was the diaper blow outs. However, I think all of us can agree that the real ‘ugly’ part of motherhood doesn’t get talked about nowhere near as much as the sleepless nights or diaper blow-outs. I know for me personally, the ‘ugly’ part of motherhood that I was absolutely not prepared for was the bouts of depression and isolation that I would often experience, the difficulty…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Who Knew That Making Mom Friends Would Be So Hard?

    I’ve always been the type of girl that never lacked in the ‘girl friends’ category. I had always found that making friends with women was effortless and deemed myself a ‘girl’s girl’ a very long time ago. Sure, I had lost some friends or cut friends out of my life for various reasons, but overall I never lacked or struggled in the friend category; until I became a mom. I knew that motherhood would present it’s own challenges, but I was never prepared for the complete change in dynamic that would occur when it came to courting and maintaining friendships. I compare having mom friends as an adult to playing chess…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    7 Habits of High Performance Moms

    Ever find yourself wondering how some moms are able to perform at such high levels? They appear successful, have a seemingly happy life, and are motivated and energetic. This super-mom can be something to be envious of when we are going through a rough patch in life and sometimes when we get into a funk we don’t think clearly and don’t know how to get out of it. Speaking from personal experience, below are the seven habits of high performance moms that I know to be true in my own life. Being a highly successful mom comes in many forms–from the executive mother to the stay at home with 5 kids,…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Wish You Could Respond To Stress Better? Try These 6 Tips!

    If you’re anything like me, you oftentimes find yourself kicking yourself in the rear for how you reacted to a stressful situation. When I get stressed I tend to lash out on the nearest bystander- not a good look for someone who is trying to #slay motherhood as my actions can sometimes undercut my goals of rewiring my brain to remain calm, cool, and collected in the face of stress. My response is usually irrational because when I am triggered by an activating event, it leads to an escalation of thoughts aka ‘racing thoughts’. Sometimes the event is huge and a stressful reaction is warranted (example: house on fire, traumatic…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I Didn’t Throw My Daughter A Birthday Party.

    Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our daughter’s fifth birthday! BUT, here’s the thing, We didn’t, and we’re not going to, throw her a birthday party. Not throwing her that Pinterest perfect party was something that made me feel incredibly guilty. I mean…it weighed on me like a ton of bricks!!! I had thought about it so much, about throwing her a party and how I was going to make this dream party happen for her, but as the weeks went by I realized that it just wasn’t in the cards. This choice was even harder when I began to compare this year to her previous birthdays and what we…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Stop Comparing your Weaknesses to their Strengths!

    A common theme I notice amongst people in general, not just mothers, is the constant comparison between others and themselves. Comparing isn’t some horrible thing to do, it actually can be a useful tool for measuring where your strengths and weaknesses are, however in my opinion, the only thing you need to be comparing are sale prices, Yelp reviews, and before & after photos. I also have noticed a common issue amongst women who compare frequently and that is a lack of self-esteem. I personally think that when you compare, you are already coming from a place of lack and that is the wrong perspective in my opinion. When you…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Practice Self-Care on a Daily Basis

    All mothers out there know how difficult it can be to perform at their best in all of the roles that we occupy each day. Between chaotic morning routines, schedule cramming, grocery shopping, work, school, and general running-the-household duties- it is common for self-care to fall at the bottom of the priority list. You have heard the phrase ‘being a mother is a thankless job’ and on some days the stress of this responsibility is crippling. As you can imagine, it is easy to get ‘down in the dumps’ while being a mom and I personally think that neglecting self care is the root cause of it. Think about it,…

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