• Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    From ‘I Do’ To ‘I’m Done’; My Journey Through Divorce

    To say the last year has been easy would be a lie, I just haven’t shared with the world what has been really going on, so here it is…. Dave and I have decided to get a divorce. There, I said it out loud. I have never been one to air my drama on any sort of platform, but we have so many friendships we have built with people all over the country that I felt this was the best outlet to ‘announce’ it. After all, for months I have been getting messages from friends and family asking the status of our marriage as the posts have slowly come to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Sometimes taking a break is exactly what you need…

    You may have noticed, Amber and I have taken a hiatus from posting on the blog and keeping up with our social media accounts. This isn’t because we don’t appreciate each and every one of our readers, or that we don’t love writing on the blog- it’s because we both came to a point in life where posting was becoming more of an obligation rather than an organic occurrence. You see, Amber and I both live extremely busy lives and the amount of time, energy, and effort to put out something that isn’t complete shit can be taxing on someone who has a full time, has young kids at home,…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    What To Eat When Something (i.e. anxiety, stress, trauma, etc.) Is Eating At You

    In my early twenties, at a point in my life when I didn’t know which way was up and I was mistreating myself if every sense of the word,  I began to feel this deep-seated pain in my stomach that I had no control over. Every morning my stomach was replaced by this weight, and when I thought about eating, it made me sick. Water and coffee typically carried me through until the evening when I’d force myself, force myself, to eat. I knew I needed something and I wanted to eat, I couldn’t enjoy the food around me as I had before; it was as if my brain was…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Get Your Priorities Straight, Sister!

    Time has to be one of the most widely used excuses ever. We use it to get out of doing something, to push projects to the side, and we use it to justify the things we say and do. Being a working mom with an active duty husband who is frequently gone, the time excuse isn’t really an excuse, it’s a part of my life. I used to find myself constantly apologizing for the crunched schedule that is my life, but why should I? Everyone who knows me, knows that my cup-runneth-over. to put it lightly. Between not getting home until 5:00 pm, to cooking dinner, cleaning the house, trying to…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Mental Health First, Momma!

    It seems like the topic of mental health only comes up after an awful tragedy happens. Perhaps you heard of a friend who passed away from suicide or there was another murder or mass shooting on the news. It seems that as soon as we begin the healing process of the last tragedy, another one comes from left field and slaps us with the brutal realization that there are people struggling with mental health all around us. We try to peel back the layers of what happened that led that person to commit suicide or murder and some of them had the signs written all over the wall and sometimes…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Parental Separation Anxiety: Why Summer Camp Was A Must For Me

    When a good friend of mine reached out to me with the idea that our daughters would go to summer camp together this year, I was over the moon ecstatic. My first thought: this would be the perfect preparation for kindergarten, and so far at day one I realize that…I have a lot of work to do, not so much my baby girl. I didn’t realize just how severe my parental separation anxiety was because up to this point I’ve never had to walk away and believe that strangers will keep my daughter safe, and the situation is more emotional than I ever imagined. The way parenthood has played out…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I’m Open and Honest With My Daughter About Mental Health

    Being honest with my daughter about mental health has always been a priority for me. Truthfully, I never had a choice, I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life, and even when I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been, it’s still there haunting me. I always imagined that it would eventually just fade away but if anything motherhood just brought on an entirely new mental health journey to face. Being the incredibly emotional and sensitive person that I am the last thing I could do was avoid the topic of mental health. “You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Get My Happy & Healthy Back – An Emotional & Physical Detox

    Are you… Waking up tired even after a full nights sleep and remaining fatigued? Suffering from headaches? Finding it hard to keep your mind sharp or on track? Experiencing skin irritation, dryness, redness, or acne? Have irregular menstrual cycles or menstrual problems? Finding it hard to lose weight? Letting your negative emotions get the upper hand? Suffering from inflammation? Experiencing bloating and constipation? Craving certain foods like sweets and carbs? Losing your appetites? Tired of the dark circles under your eyes? Experiencing mood swings or irritability? Suffering from bad breath or body odor? Maybe you’re experiencing one or two of these things, maybe even five or more! If you are,…

  • Mental Health,  Productivity

    Do You Fully Understand Your Personality?

    You have probably seen personality tests floating around on Facebook where you take a quick questionnaire to find out which Disney Princess you are or which city you should ideally live in, but have you ever taken a psychology-backed personality test? Are you 100% sure that you know the ins and outs of yourself? Your strengths, your weaknesses, your quirks, what sets you off, your ideal career path? Personally, I think that understanding your personality in it’s entirety is absolutely critical for overall wellbeing, effectiveness at work, and navigating relationships as successfully as you can. Sure- your presence and the way you carry yourself can say a lot about who you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Do You Know If It’s Time To Walk Away From A Toxic Relationship?

    There is an old metaphor from the Philippines called the ‘crab mentality’ that helps me understand the motivations behind crappy human behavior. You have a barrel full of live crabs, some of which can easily escape, and the ones who try escaping get pulled back down by the other crabs with the mindset of ‘if I can’t have it, neither can you’. This is a perfect metaphor to describe human behavior that is particularly useful in spotting toxic friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, and working relationships. It describes the feelings and actions that others may take when someone else is experiencing success; they seek to ‘pull them down’ out of…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    What Exactly Is Mindfulness And Why Is Everyone Talking About It?

    If you are unfamiliar with the holistic or new age community- you probably hear the term mindfulness and picture someone drinking their cold pressed organic wheat grass juice while patting off their forehead sweat from their hot yoga session in a cave in Sedona. It turns out, a lot of new age and Eastern views of emotional and physical health can be healed and cured without conventional medicine or pharmaceuticals. Over recent years, psychologists, therapists, and neuroscientists are all recognizing the amazing emotional and physical benefits that people can achieve with mindfulness. But what is mindfulness exactly? Although I believe that everybody can benefit from practicing mindfulness, it is particularly…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    The Ugly Side Of Motherhood Nobody Prepared Us For

    We have all heard the phrase ‘the good, the bad, and the ugly’ and when I thought about this phrase regarding motherhood, I assumed that the good was the sweet baby giggles, that the bad was the lack of sleep and that the ugly was the diaper blow outs. However, I think all of us can agree that the real ‘ugly’ part of motherhood doesn’t get talked about nowhere near as much as the sleepless nights or diaper blow-outs. I know for me personally, the ‘ugly’ part of motherhood that I was absolutely not prepared for was the bouts of depression and isolation that I would often experience, the difficulty…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    It’s Never Too Late To Tell A New Story About Yourself

    Have you ever met a person who lived and breathed their problems? A Debbie-Downer type that seems to bring a rain cloud with them wherever they go. They dwell on the negative, they are victims of everything, and seem to put a damper on everyone around them. These people are fairly easy to spot, but I want you to think about the ways that you breathe life into your problems. What are the things you complain about the most? You see, when you complain all day and to everyone about your issues, you are reiterating that narrative to yourself that you do in fact have those problems. I’ve met tons of…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Why All Moms Who ‘Let Themselves Go’ Need To Get Themselves Back

    We have all heard the phrase ‘she really let herself go after kids’ or we know someone who fits the description. This phrase is usually aimed at the stressed-out looking mom rocking sweat pants and slippers in public far too often with her hair in a mess and obviously gives zero F’s about her appearance. Whether it was retaining the baby weight for a little too long, putting zero effort into your appearance, wearing pajamas all day, or going through a phase of being unpleasant to be around and lazy. Let’s be honest for a moment- we have all been there at some point and to some degree. The difference between…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Sustaining A Strong & Healthy Marriage Through Honest Communication & Vulnerability

    When we’re feeling awful about ourselves and life has us a mess, having a vulnerable and honest conversation about mental health with your spouse can be difficult if you don’t know where to start. These discussions can be especially tricky if you don’t recognize your warning signs yet or if you’re at a place in your journey where denial still holds considerable strength. For example, when you’re having continuous negative thoughts that you can’t control. You’re starting to resent your husband for the things that he is or isn’t doing around the house but don’t speak up. You begin feeling emotionally numb or having strong, erratic emotional upsets. Start to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Getting in the Gym, Got Me Out of My Head.

    Depression & Anxiety are terms that are constantly thrown around these days. I have met many people who have never experienced depression or anxiety, and I have met people who had crippling experiences with it. I used to really beat myself up for being the type of person that nobody would ever think would struggle with these two demons, but it was a daily fight that I was excellent at hiding behind a smile and my sense of humor. Not only did I beat myself up for living a double life, I used to beat myself up over the fact that my problems that led to this were seemingly small compared…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    7 Habits of High Performance Moms

    Ever find yourself wondering how some moms are able to perform at such high levels? They appear successful, have a seemingly happy life, and are motivated and energetic. This super-mom can be something to be envious of when we are going through a rough patch in life and sometimes when we get into a funk we don’t think clearly and don’t know how to get out of it. Speaking from personal experience, below are the seven habits of high performance moms that I know to be true in my own life. Being a highly successful mom comes in many forms–from the executive mother to the stay at home with 5 kids,…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: The Difficulty Of Friendship and The Secrets To Making Them Last.

    Making friends is easy when you’re fun, kind and welcoming, but keeping them, however, is an entirely different story, especially if you suffer from anxiety and depression. As a woman who has dealt with mental health issues for as long as I can remember, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I will have to live with a lot of acquaintances. Even though I wish that weren’t the case, it’s where my life lessons have brought me. I’m sure some people from my past may believe I’m awful because I couldn’t live up to certain expectations or I came off cold more times than I would like, and that’s…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Wish You Could Respond To Stress Better? Try These 6 Tips!

    If you’re anything like me, you oftentimes find yourself kicking yourself in the rear for how you reacted to a stressful situation. When I get stressed I tend to lash out on the nearest bystander- not a good look for someone who is trying to #slay motherhood as my actions can sometimes undercut my goals of rewiring my brain to remain calm, cool, and collected in the face of stress. My response is usually irrational because when I am triggered by an activating event, it leads to an escalation of thoughts aka ‘racing thoughts’. Sometimes the event is huge and a stressful reaction is warranted (example: house on fire, traumatic…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    The Power of Setting Boundaries

    We all have them– relationships with friends, family, coworkers, or in laws that drain you emotionally and energetically. You see the phone ring, or a text come through and you feel yourself instantly dreading the upcoming interaction. This doesn’t apply to just people and relationships, the draining feeling can arise from a variety of different situations and commitments that you have gotten yourself in to. I know for me, there has been many times that I had committed to something that I truly didn’t want to do and absolutely dreaded that commitment, which in turn, put me in a foul mood and drained my energy. Now, I want you to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Advice & Tips To Help Prevent Mothers From Losing Their Shit!

    We’ve all been there, burned out, stressed out, and completely spread thin. I feel like moms experience this frequently due to the endless duties, responsibilities, and oftentimes lack of appreciation that comes along with being a mother. My question is, why do we wait until we are on the brink of a nervous breakdown before we realize this? Wouldn’t it be easier if we switched our method of handling and coping with this stress to prevention mode rather than crisis mode? There have been so many times where I have experienced this and I noticed a common theme almost every time, when I would feel this way- on the verge of a…

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