• Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How To Find Calm Amidst The Chaos

    Hi everyone- my name is Sam and I am a recovering stress bomb. For the vast majority of my 28 years, stress is something I wasn’t able to cope with well- at all. I never managed it properly for a variety of reasons, but now as an adult who choses to live consciously, I am making a conscious decision everyday to keep my cool and find zen amidst the chaos of motherhood & adulthood. Chaos and stress does not discriminate – ALL of us, whether we are parents, single, married, young, old, rich, or poor- can’t escape stress. The good news is, we can be more mindful in our coping…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Learning To Love Your ‘Imperfections’

    To be honest, at first, I didn’t know how to go about the topic of body and beauty and what many see as imperfections. I was worried that women would take offense because I didn’t want to be THAT PERSON claiming that bushy eyebrows and stretch marks are considered flaws in the first place. The truth is, I don’t feel those are imperfections at all, although some may, especially if you have them yourself because let’s face it…we are our worst critiques. I’m just going to put myself out there for this one. I’m not saying that because I love my flaws and ‘imperfections’ that I don’t have ten extra…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Why Women Judge Each Other And Why It Has To Stop

    We are ALL guilty of judging other women whether we want to admit that or not. We oftentimes make judgements about other woman based on surface level assumptions such as their appearance or demeanor. Perhaps this woman was prettier than you, or heavier than you, was wearing something revealing, or her children were behaving like animals- we make judgements about people every single day. We may even make a snide comment to our friend about the judgement we just made about that other woman. Have you ever felt judged? It doesn’t feel very good does it? I have felt judged in a million different ways and in a million different situations. Whether it…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Fighting The Winter Blues & Seasonal Affective Disorder: New Evidence As To Why We’re Feeling So Down.

    Even now, when I am entirely aware of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), how the short days and extremely long nights can manipulate my mental health, it’s still not an easy time. Every year when the days grow shorter, so do my nerves – I become agitated in situations that I usually would just let go, I lose my energy, I begin to numb my emotions, my enthusiasm seeks hibernation, the weight piles on, my inner voice becomes more critical than ever, and I retreat as much as I can from social gatherings. For as long as I can remember this has been my reality, and it wasn’t until I heard…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    It’s Never Too Late To Tell A New Story About Yourself

    Have you ever met a person who lived and breathed their problems? A Debbie-Downer type that seems to bring a rain cloud with them wherever they go. They dwell on the negative, they are victims of everything, and seem to put a damper on everyone around them. These people are fairly easy to spot, but I want you to think about the ways that you breathe life into your problems. What are the things you complain about the most? You see, when you complain all day and to everyone about your issues, you are reiterating that narrative to yourself that you do in fact have those problems. I’ve met tons of…

  • Motherhood,  Productivity

    It’s Time To Buckle Down and ‘Boss’ Up, Mommas

    Imagine waking up first thing in the morning, before everyone else and having this incredible sense of power behind you. You’re sitting comfortably in your favorite spot, the house is silent, your cup of coffee to the right, your planner open. A few weekly chores here and there. Today it’s patching the hole in the playroom drywall from when the kids were roughhousing and wiping down the blinds. The normal every day must-dos too like vacuuming, washing dishes, and doing laundry. A few hours set aside to catch up on a few work projects. Soccer practice for Jason. Meeting the hubs at school for Sarah’s ballet recital. A quick grocery store trip to pick up…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Why All Moms Who ‘Let Themselves Go’ Need To Get Themselves Back

    We have all heard the phrase ‘she really let herself go after kids’ or we know someone who fits the description. This phrase is usually aimed at the stressed-out looking mom rocking sweat pants and slippers in public far too often with her hair in a mess and obviously gives zero F’s about her appearance. Whether it was retaining the baby weight for a little too long, putting zero effort into your appearance, wearing pajamas all day, or going through a phase of being unpleasant to be around and lazy. Let’s be honest for a moment- we have all been there at some point and to some degree. The difference between…

  • Self Care

    How 1 Skin Care Brand Changed My Life & My Mind About Direct Sales Forever

    My name is Sam and I am a beauty & skincare product addict. I am a salesman’s dream client. Any average salesman could tell me about the latest and greatest beauty, skincare, hair, or health product and I was sold. If I could add up the amount of money I have spent on these types of products over the last ten years, I could probably buy a brand new car, in cash. I would see stars with beauty products to the point that I wouldn’t even consider the possibility that these products may not work or perhaps are a waste of money. I remember when Amber and I graduated Navy boot…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Who Knew That Making Mom Friends Would Be So Hard?

    I’ve always been the type of girl that never lacked in the ‘girl friends’ category. I had always found that making friends with women was effortless and deemed myself a ‘girl’s girl’ a very long time ago. Sure, I had lost some friends or cut friends out of my life for various reasons, but overall I never lacked or struggled in the friend category; until I became a mom. I knew that motherhood would present it’s own challenges, but I was never prepared for the complete change in dynamic that would occur when it came to courting and maintaining friendships. I compare having mom friends as an adult to playing chess…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Got Myself Motivated With 1 Easy Trick

    We all know a gal or two who is annoyingly positive, energetic, optimistic, and all around overly motivated. Said woman can be dubbed as a super mom who not only works, raises kids, has a seemingly perfect marriage, and still finds time to make homemade play dough and Pinterest-worthy meals on the regular. I have had several friends like this throughout my adult life and I used to silently judge them and compare myself to them, which made me feel like shit to tell you the truth.     I would compare their strong areas to the areas that I lacked. I would justify the differences in motivation between us…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Strengthening Structure & Responsibility By Creating A Reward System For Your Child

    Sometimes our children’s behavior and routine can get away from us because being that “perfect” parent, always hitting the mark, isn’t possible. That doesn’t mean we don’t go crazy trying to make it happen though -trying one form of discipline and parenting style after another until something sticks. If there was one thing I could be perfect at, I wish it was being a mother but life has shown me time and time again that it’s not going to happen -all we can do is our best. That’s why I continue to find ways that help bring positive structure to our home before reaching that point of chaos. Unfortunately for…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Even The ‘Best’ Marriages Go Through Hard Times & It’s Time We Start Talking About It

    It seems as though everywhere you look, everyone’s marriage seems picture-perfect, at least in the fantasy land we call social media. It is a widely known ‘no-no’ to air our dirty laundry on social media and on the rare occasion someone does, we grab the popcorn and listen to the tea being spilled. We wouldn’t dare do this ourselves because it would be embarrassing and we don’t need to update our hundreds of acquaintances with every detail post-marital scandal. After all, some things should remain off social media, right? Seeing everyone’s highlight reels of their seemingly perfect marriage can sting when you are going through a hard time in yours.…

  • Mental Health

    Panic Attacks Are A Bitch.

    Panic attacks are a bitch. It’s as if the weight of the world has suddenly landed on your chest, your thoughts have gone rogue, and you’ve developed the energy level of a cat that decided to practice its acrobatic skills in the middle of the night in a small apartment. Seeing that I just woke up from a dead sleep, having a full-blown panic at 3:30 A.M. I figured now would be a good time as any to talk about how to ease your attack and start to have more rational and calming thoughts to address what’s causing your anxiety. Ways that can quickly help you find your breath again. ✨BREATHE!…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Sustaining A Strong & Healthy Marriage Through Honest Communication & Vulnerability

    When we’re feeling awful about ourselves and life has us a mess, having a vulnerable and honest conversation about mental health with your spouse can be difficult if you don’t know where to start. These discussions can be especially tricky if you don’t recognize your warning signs yet or if you’re at a place in your journey where denial still holds considerable strength. For example, when you’re having continuous negative thoughts that you can’t control. You’re starting to resent your husband for the things that he is or isn’t doing around the house but don’t speak up. You begin feeling emotionally numb or having strong, erratic emotional upsets. Start to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Getting in the Gym, Got Me Out of My Head.

    Depression & Anxiety are terms that are constantly thrown around these days. I have met many people who have never experienced depression or anxiety, and I have met people who had crippling experiences with it. I used to really beat myself up for being the type of person that nobody would ever think would struggle with these two demons, but it was a daily fight that I was excellent at hiding behind a smile and my sense of humor. Not only did I beat myself up for living a double life, I used to beat myself up over the fact that my problems that led to this were seemingly small compared…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: Don’t Let Energetic Clutter Sabotage Your Success & Enthusiasm

    Have you been there? That moment when you’re on a roll, slaying some serious goals, and then all of a sudden you feel this overwhelming and overburdening anxiety start to slip in? Sometimes when we’re on that theoretical Mommaslaying high, feeling powerful and responsible, we forget that we need to step back and reset ourselves. When your Mommaslay train is going full speed ahead, and you’re trying to stay on track but feel like you’re about to derail, it could be that you forgot to do some vital maintenance; it’s time to clear out that energetic clutter.   Speaking from personal experience, when I’m feeling mentally and emotionally on my…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    7 Habits of High Performance Moms

    Ever find yourself wondering how some moms are able to perform at such high levels? They appear successful, have a seemingly happy life, and are motivated and energetic. This super-mom can be something to be envious of when we are going through a rough patch in life and sometimes when we get into a funk we don’t think clearly and don’t know how to get out of it. Speaking from personal experience, below are the seven habits of high performance moms that I know to be true in my own life. Being a highly successful mom comes in many forms–from the executive mother to the stay at home with 5 kids,…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Having a Hard Time Finding Motivation to Workout? Try These 5 Tips!

    Have you ever felt like you have absolutely zero motivation to hit the gym? Have you ever made it to the gym only to do a half-ass workout and barely get your sweat on because you just didn’t feel like it at the time? Finding the motivation to workout can be like trying to find that sippy-cup full of milk that has been lost for a week. You flat-out don’t want to do it most of the time. This can be especially true if you are just starting your fitness journey. This happens for many reasons, mainly because we want instant results with minimal effort and it can be difficult…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: The Difficulty Of Friendship and The Secrets To Making Them Last.

    Making friends is easy when you’re fun, kind and welcoming, but keeping them, however, is an entirely different story, especially if you suffer from anxiety and depression. As a woman who has dealt with mental health issues for as long as I can remember, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I will have to live with a lot of acquaintances. Even though I wish that weren’t the case, it’s where my life lessons have brought me. I’m sure some people from my past may believe I’m awful because I couldn’t live up to certain expectations or I came off cold more times than I would like, and that’s…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Dealing With Mean Girls…..As An Adult

    There is no doubt that at some point in your life that you have had to deal with a mean girl, or even worse- mean girls! These adult bullies can appear in many forms such as a coworker, a boss, a friend of a friend, a fellow mom, a ‘frenemy’, someone from your past, or even on social media. This isn’t a topic that is touched on too much as an adult as we constantly were reminded throughout our childhood about bullies, so the subject in itself can seem childish because after all, we are adults now and should be able to ‘stick up for ourselves’ right? I vividly remember…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Wish You Could Respond To Stress Better? Try These 6 Tips!

    If you’re anything like me, you oftentimes find yourself kicking yourself in the rear for how you reacted to a stressful situation. When I get stressed I tend to lash out on the nearest bystander- not a good look for someone who is trying to #slay motherhood as my actions can sometimes undercut my goals of rewiring my brain to remain calm, cool, and collected in the face of stress. My response is usually irrational because when I am triggered by an activating event, it leads to an escalation of thoughts aka ‘racing thoughts’. Sometimes the event is huge and a stressful reaction is warranted (example: house on fire, traumatic…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    5 Reasons Why You Need To Create A Daily Routine.

    Something I realized while serving in the military, was that I liked it when someone was bossing me around. The yelling didn’t get to me, it was soothing in a weird, please, don’t destroy me, kind of way. My military girlfriends and I still joke about how amazing it would be to have someone following us around all day, telling us when we were slacking off and demand that we do our daily workout. It could be that I’m an Aries so I appreciated the strong-headedness, I also love a good challenge, but I still wish I had someone like that in my life today. That fairy tale, however, is a…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

    We all have them: personality traits, behaviors, moods, reactions, or habits that we wish we didn’t posses. Whether you get road rage easily, lash out when you’re upset, smoke cigarettes, or binge-eat when your stressed (I could list thousands of others but you get the idea), but there is no denying that all of us are human and all of us have some things we wish we could change about our brain and how it responds or reacts. I have heard over the years when other people describe their negative traits, they also say, ‘well, thats just who I am’. False. What if I told you that you can change…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I Didn’t Throw My Daughter A Birthday Party.

    Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our daughter’s fifth birthday! BUT, here’s the thing, We didn’t, and we’re not going to, throw her a birthday party. Not throwing her that Pinterest perfect party was something that made me feel incredibly guilty. I mean…it weighed on me like a ton of bricks!!! I had thought about it so much, about throwing her a party and how I was going to make this dream party happen for her, but as the weeks went by I realized that it just wasn’t in the cards. This choice was even harder when I began to compare this year to her previous birthdays and what we…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    The Power of Setting Boundaries

    We all have them– relationships with friends, family, coworkers, or in laws that drain you emotionally and energetically. You see the phone ring, or a text come through and you feel yourself instantly dreading the upcoming interaction. This doesn’t apply to just people and relationships, the draining feeling can arise from a variety of different situations and commitments that you have gotten yourself in to. I know for me, there has been many times that I had committed to something that I truly didn’t want to do and absolutely dreaded that commitment, which in turn, put me in a foul mood and drained my energy. Now, I want you to…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Explanation.”

    “You don’t owe anyone an explanation,” a comment my husband made to me early 2016 when I was in the middle of a full-blown panic attack. It was a time when I had significant personal breakthroughs, but instead of rejoicing these discoveries I began worrying about how I was going to explain my way of life to those around me. Those six words struck my core and set me on a path of total self-love and being the best wife and mother possible. I now have them permanently taped to my bathroom mirror as a daily reminder to live my life for me and the happiness of my family. A…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Ring in the New Year with A New Perspective.

    When people say that history is bound to repeat itself, we tend to think of critical events like mass extinctions, revolutions, and crumbling empires but rarely do we ever point the finger back at ourselves and our failed attempts to better our lives. That can be a harsh reality to face. With the New Year just around the corner, some of you are in the process of planning your near future with those infamous New Year Resolutions. You’re jotting down your lists, making plans, cutting up magazines and creating your vision boards (no, that’s just me?), to tackle your new goals. Exciting right? I think so! I have one question…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Advice & Tips To Help Prevent Mothers From Losing Their Shit!

    We’ve all been there, burned out, stressed out, and completely spread thin. I feel like moms experience this frequently due to the endless duties, responsibilities, and oftentimes lack of appreciation that comes along with being a mother. My question is, why do we wait until we are on the brink of a nervous breakdown before we realize this? Wouldn’t it be easier if we switched our method of handling and coping with this stress to prevention mode rather than crisis mode? There have been so many times where I have experienced this and I noticed a common theme almost every time, when I would feel this way- on the verge of a…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Stop Comparing your Weaknesses to their Strengths!

    A common theme I notice amongst people in general, not just mothers, is the constant comparison between others and themselves. Comparing isn’t some horrible thing to do, it actually can be a useful tool for measuring where your strengths and weaknesses are, however in my opinion, the only thing you need to be comparing are sale prices, Yelp reviews, and before & after photos. I also have noticed a common issue amongst women who compare frequently and that is a lack of self-esteem. I personally think that when you compare, you are already coming from a place of lack and that is the wrong perspective in my opinion. When you…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    How to Cope When Your Toddler Is Being An A-Hole

    It’s 8:03 am and I am writing this with dried tears on my face. Instead of having a nice waking-up experience, my (almost) 3-year-old rolls over and starts kicking and hitting me. This is a standard morning routine and for the life of me, I cannot understand why he hits me so much. I calmly say ‘don’t hit mommy, use your words, what do you need’ and then all of a sudden– I catch a fist straight to the nose. I immediately start bawling because if you’ve ever been hit in the nose, the tears are an automatic reaction… I put my son in his bedroom for time-out and shut…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How to Snap Out of the Victimhood Mentality and Start Enjoying Life!

    I wanted to talk  about the victimhood mentality that has taken over my generation, the Millennials. It seems like everywhere you turn, Millennials can be seen bitching, moaning, and being ‘outraged’. Combine it with perpetuating fact-lacking propaganda fueled by hormones and a desire to be seen as a ‘revolutionary’ and we have got ourselves a recipe for disaster. The trend of being the first to point out micro-aggressions, shaming, and the demand for safe spaces is how the term ‘Snowflake’ evolved as this group of young people have an emotional state that is seemingly as ‘delicate as a Snowflake’.   Let me make something clear before I move on. I don’t think…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Why you Need to Start Saying NO!

    I used to be one of those people called a people pleaser. If you read my post about understanding your past and how it shapes your current behavior, you can easily understand how I came to be that way. What I didn’t realize was how much of an emotional toll that possessing this seemingly positive trait would take on my mental health. So many of us are caught up in the struggle of wanting people to accept us, to like us, and to belong. This is nothing to be ashamed of, it is part of our essence of being human. You just have to learn how to juggle the people-pleasing part…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    How Understanding Your Past Can Make You A Better Mom

    I think it is absolutely critical for personal growth and happiness to understand your own psychological makeup. People usually do this type of deep self-reflecting in a therapist’s office, but if you haven’t been able to see a therapist, you can supplement with reading self-help material and understanding your own psychology, personality, and your past. It wasn’t until I was studying for my Bachelor’s in Psychology that I realized how my past shaped who I was as an adult. I knew I was different from many others, I came from a broken home, was exposed to many traumatic situations, my mother was a severe alcoholic (and still struggles to this day),…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Practice Self-Care on a Daily Basis

    All mothers out there know how difficult it can be to perform at their best in all of the roles that we occupy each day. Between chaotic morning routines, schedule cramming, grocery shopping, work, school, and general running-the-household duties- it is common for self-care to fall at the bottom of the priority list. You have heard the phrase ‘being a mother is a thankless job’ and on some days the stress of this responsibility is crippling. As you can imagine, it is easy to get ‘down in the dumps’ while being a mom and I personally think that neglecting self care is the root cause of it. Think about it,…

Skip to toolbar