• Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Picking Up the Pieces

    I remember sorting through photos as I was packing my belongings that I would be taking with me when I moved out and I felt such a bittersweet wave of emotions and tears take over, which was somewhat confusing because after all- I was the one who wanted this. Was I sad? Of course, however, I knew that as I packed each box, I was leaving behind all of the pieces of myself and the last 9 years that no longer serve who I am today. This was such a symbolic thing for me to do because although divorce can be difficult, it is also the rebirthing of who you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    From ‘I Do’ To ‘I’m Done’; My Journey Through Divorce

    To say the last year has been easy would be a lie, I just haven’t shared with the world what has been really going on, so here it is…. Dave and I have decided to get a divorce. There, I said it out loud. I have never been one to air my drama on any sort of platform, but we have so many friendships we have built with people all over the country that I felt this was the best outlet to ‘announce’ it. After all, for months I have been getting messages from friends and family asking the status of our marriage as the posts have slowly come to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Sometimes taking a break is exactly what you need…

    You may have noticed, Amber and I have taken a hiatus from posting on the blog and keeping up with our social media accounts. This isn’t because we don’t appreciate each and every one of our readers, or that we don’t love writing on the blog- it’s because we both came to a point in life where posting was becoming more of an obligation rather than an organic occurrence. You see, Amber and I both live extremely busy lives and the amount of time, energy, and effort to put out something that isn’t complete shit can be taxing on someone who has a full time, has young kids at home,…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    What To Eat When Something (i.e. anxiety, stress, trauma, etc.) Is Eating At You

    In my early twenties, at a point in my life when I didn’t know which way was up and I was mistreating myself if every sense of the word,  I began to feel this deep-seated pain in my stomach that I had no control over. Every morning my stomach was replaced by this weight, and when I thought about eating, it made me sick. Water and coffee typically carried me through until the evening when I’d force myself, force myself, to eat. I knew I needed something and I wanted to eat, I couldn’t enjoy the food around me as I had before; it was as if my brain was…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Keeping Your Mind & Body Healthy Throughout the Holidays

    It’s getting to be that time of year ladies- it is mid October and I have already been partaking in the seasonal splurge. I mean, how can you go into Trader Joe’s and not snag a box or three of their seasonal cookies or a pumpkin chai loaf? With so many temptations around us and the onset of the holidays, resisting the urge hasn’t been something that I have been putting effort in, and boy and I starting to feel it. Not only do I feel sluggish from the intake of too many treats and junk, but my midsection is feeling bloated and large, yikes! But most importantly- I feel crabby and…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Sorry, Not Sorry.

    For those who are ready to let the judgements, insecurities, the weight of whatever holds them back, finally go. If this speaks to you -find a quiet place where you can be alone and continue while you read out loud.  I’m sorry, not sorry… I get that there’s a chance -a very likely possibility- that some may not understand me. They don’t know why I’ve made certain decisions in my life. They may not know why I process thoughts, handle situations, or react the way I do. They, you, may not even recognize me. That I am a creative mess. That I’m a mess in general. That I am a…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Mental Health First, Momma!

    It seems like the topic of mental health only comes up after an awful tragedy happens. Perhaps you heard of a friend who passed away from suicide or there was another murder or mass shooting on the news. It seems that as soon as we begin the healing process of the last tragedy, another one comes from left field and slaps us with the brutal realization that there are people struggling with mental health all around us. We try to peel back the layers of what happened that led that person to commit suicide or murder and some of them had the signs written all over the wall and sometimes…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Feeling Burnt Out? Here’s 9 (FAMILY FRIENDLY) Ways To Self-Care During Your Busy Summer

    Who else is exhausted? I don’t know if it’s the heat without A.C. (curse you Alaskan homes for only having in-home forced heat), the unforgiving sunshine or the overly-tired children being extra whiny -but Momma needs some serious recovery. That’s why I’m dedicating this weekend to self-care regimes that I know will help me unwind and decompress, and refuel. Refueling is paramount during the summer! I want to let the family have fun but I also need to maintain that energy that has us getting out in the first place. It’s all about and having fun without burning out as a family -especially while the sun still sits high in the…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Rudeness: The Weak Person’s Imitation of Strength

    In today’s world, rudeness is virtually everywhere. When I say virtually, it is especially present on the many social media platforms that are a huge part of our lives. There are two types of rudeness: direct and indirect. As you can imagine, direct rudeness would be someone being directly rude to another person and indirect rudeness would be rudeness more on the passive-aggressive side. As a grown woman and a mother to boot, I particularly want to shield my children from rudeness. However, life had other plans and we can’t protect our kids from everything. They will at some point in their children be picked on, excluded, or bullied by…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Self Care

    The Courage To Grow

    All of us at one point or another have felt, and even some of us RIGHT NOW *I know I am* are feeling life-altering growing pains. I’m not talking about the growing pains that we experienced during our childhood or our pregnancies, when our bodies pulled, stretched, and expanded as we slept, which yes, were painful. But the passing times of life’s many teachable moments that have us figuratively and energetically extending as we walk through each day -eye’s wide open or sometimes shut- becoming our highest form of self.   Self-Growth.  Self-Realization.  Self-Empowerment. Self-Improvement.   There have been and will be moments in life when we don’t even realize…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Parental Separation Anxiety: Why Summer Camp Was A Must For Me

    When a good friend of mine reached out to me with the idea that our daughters would go to summer camp together this year, I was over the moon ecstatic. My first thought: this would be the perfect preparation for kindergarten, and so far at day one I realize that…I have a lot of work to do, not so much my baby girl. I didn’t realize just how severe my parental separation anxiety was because up to this point I’ve never had to walk away and believe that strangers will keep my daughter safe, and the situation is more emotional than I ever imagined. The way parenthood has played out…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Get My Happy & Healthy Back – An Emotional & Physical Detox

    Are you… Waking up tired even after a full nights sleep and remaining fatigued? Suffering from headaches? Finding it hard to keep your mind sharp or on track? Experiencing skin irritation, dryness, redness, or acne? Have irregular menstrual cycles or menstrual problems? Finding it hard to lose weight? Letting your negative emotions get the upper hand? Suffering from inflammation? Experiencing bloating and constipation? Craving certain foods like sweets and carbs? Losing your appetites? Tired of the dark circles under your eyes? Experiencing mood swings or irritability? Suffering from bad breath or body odor? Maybe you’re experiencing one or two of these things, maybe even five or more! If you are,…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Do You Know If It’s Time To Walk Away From A Toxic Relationship?

    There is an old metaphor from the Philippines called the ‘crab mentality’ that helps me understand the motivations behind crappy human behavior. You have a barrel full of live crabs, some of which can easily escape, and the ones who try escaping get pulled back down by the other crabs with the mindset of ‘if I can’t have it, neither can you’. This is a perfect metaphor to describe human behavior that is particularly useful in spotting toxic friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, and working relationships. It describes the feelings and actions that others may take when someone else is experiencing success; they seek to ‘pull them down’ out of…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Finances, Emotional Intelligence, and Orgasms -Oh My! The Many Sides of Self-Care That No One’s Talking About

    Self-care isn’t direct -it’s multi-faceted, and is most successful when treated as such. Like a diamond that’s been pushed down time and time again while feeling the pressure of the world, to finally becoming one of the most precious gemstones that refuses to break -we too require the love and care needed to shine so brightly.   Diamonds aren’t a girl’s best friend, self-care is. You’re the diamond, Sister!     The thing is, self-care has become just another thing most women are expected to be great at, or it’s assumed to be something we naturally know how to do, but that’s not the case -whatsoever. We aren’t born understanding what self-care is;…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    What Exactly Is Mindfulness And Why Is Everyone Talking About It?

    If you are unfamiliar with the holistic or new age community- you probably hear the term mindfulness and picture someone drinking their cold pressed organic wheat grass juice while patting off their forehead sweat from their hot yoga session in a cave in Sedona. It turns out, a lot of new age and Eastern views of emotional and physical health can be healed and cured without conventional medicine or pharmaceuticals. Over recent years, psychologists, therapists, and neuroscientists are all recognizing the amazing emotional and physical benefits that people can achieve with mindfulness. But what is mindfulness exactly? Although I believe that everybody can benefit from practicing mindfulness, it is particularly…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How To Find Calm Amidst The Chaos

    Hi everyone- my name is Sam and I am a recovering stress bomb. For the vast majority of my 28 years, stress is something I wasn’t able to cope with well- at all. I never managed it properly for a variety of reasons, but now as an adult who choses to live consciously, I am making a conscious decision everyday to keep my cool and find zen amidst the chaos of motherhood & adulthood. Chaos and stress does not discriminate – ALL of us, whether we are parents, single, married, young, old, rich, or poor- can’t escape stress. The good news is, we can be more mindful in our coping…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Learning To Love Your ‘Imperfections’

    To be honest, at first, I didn’t know how to go about the topic of body and beauty and what many see as imperfections. I was worried that women would take offense because I didn’t want to be THAT PERSON claiming that bushy eyebrows and stretch marks are considered flaws in the first place. The truth is, I don’t feel those are imperfections at all, although some may, especially if you have them yourself because let’s face it…we are our worst critiques. I’m just going to put myself out there for this one. I’m not saying that because I love my flaws and ‘imperfections’ that I don’t have ten extra…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Why Women Judge Each Other And Why It Has To Stop

    We are ALL guilty of judging other women whether we want to admit that or not. We oftentimes make judgements about other woman based on surface level assumptions such as their appearance or demeanor. Perhaps this woman was prettier than you, or heavier than you, was wearing something revealing, or her children were behaving like animals- we make judgements about people every single day. We may even make a snide comment to our friend about the judgement we just made about that other woman. Have you ever felt judged? It doesn’t feel very good does it? I have felt judged in a million different ways and in a million different situations. Whether it…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Fighting The Winter Blues & Seasonal Affective Disorder: New Evidence As To Why We’re Feeling So Down.

    Even now, when I am entirely aware of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), how the short days and extremely long nights can manipulate my mental health, it’s still not an easy time. Every year when the days grow shorter, so do my nerves – I become agitated in situations that I usually would just let go, I lose my energy, I begin to numb my emotions, my enthusiasm seeks hibernation, the weight piles on, my inner voice becomes more critical than ever, and I retreat as much as I can from social gatherings. For as long as I can remember this has been my reality, and it wasn’t until I heard…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    It’s Never Too Late To Tell A New Story About Yourself

    Have you ever met a person who lived and breathed their problems? A Debbie-Downer type that seems to bring a rain cloud with them wherever they go. They dwell on the negative, they are victims of everything, and seem to put a damper on everyone around them. These people are fairly easy to spot, but I want you to think about the ways that you breathe life into your problems. What are the things you complain about the most? You see, when you complain all day and to everyone about your issues, you are reiterating that narrative to yourself that you do in fact have those problems. I’ve met tons of…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Why All Moms Who ‘Let Themselves Go’ Need To Get Themselves Back

    We have all heard the phrase ‘she really let herself go after kids’ or we know someone who fits the description. This phrase is usually aimed at the stressed-out looking mom rocking sweat pants and slippers in public far too often with her hair in a mess and obviously gives zero F’s about her appearance. Whether it was retaining the baby weight for a little too long, putting zero effort into your appearance, wearing pajamas all day, or going through a phase of being unpleasant to be around and lazy. Let’s be honest for a moment- we have all been there at some point and to some degree. The difference between…

  • Self Care

    How 1 Skin Care Brand Changed My Life & My Mind About Direct Sales Forever

    My name is Sam and I am a beauty & skincare product addict. I am a salesman’s dream client. Any average salesman could tell me about the latest and greatest beauty, skincare, hair, or health product and I was sold. If I could add up the amount of money I have spent on these types of products over the last ten years, I could probably buy a brand new car, in cash. I would see stars with beauty products to the point that I wouldn’t even consider the possibility that these products may not work or perhaps are a waste of money. I remember when Amber and I graduated Navy boot…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Who Knew That Making Mom Friends Would Be So Hard?

    I’ve always been the type of girl that never lacked in the ‘girl friends’ category. I had always found that making friends with women was effortless and deemed myself a ‘girl’s girl’ a very long time ago. Sure, I had lost some friends or cut friends out of my life for various reasons, but overall I never lacked or struggled in the friend category; until I became a mom. I knew that motherhood would present it’s own challenges, but I was never prepared for the complete change in dynamic that would occur when it came to courting and maintaining friendships. I compare having mom friends as an adult to playing chess…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Got Myself Motivated With 1 Easy Trick

    We all know a gal or two who is annoyingly positive, energetic, optimistic, and all around overly motivated. Said woman can be dubbed as a super mom who not only works, raises kids, has a seemingly perfect marriage, and still finds time to make homemade play dough and Pinterest-worthy meals on the regular. I have had several friends like this throughout my adult life and I used to silently judge them and compare myself to them, which made me feel like shit to tell you the truth.     I would compare their strong areas to the areas that I lacked. I would justify the differences in motivation between us…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Getting in the Gym, Got Me Out of My Head.

    Depression & Anxiety are terms that are constantly thrown around these days. I have met many people who have never experienced depression or anxiety, and I have met people who had crippling experiences with it. I used to really beat myself up for being the type of person that nobody would ever think would struggle with these two demons, but it was a daily fight that I was excellent at hiding behind a smile and my sense of humor. Not only did I beat myself up for living a double life, I used to beat myself up over the fact that my problems that led to this were seemingly small compared…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: Don’t Let Energetic Clutter Sabotage Your Success & Enthusiasm

    Have you been there? That moment when you’re on a roll, slaying some serious goals, and then all of a sudden you feel this overwhelming and overburdening anxiety start to slip in? Sometimes when we’re on that theoretical Mommaslaying high, feeling powerful and responsible, we forget that we need to step back and reset ourselves. When your Mommaslay train is going full speed ahead, and you’re trying to stay on track but feel like you’re about to derail, it could be that you forgot to do some vital maintenance; it’s time to clear out that energetic clutter.   Speaking from personal experience, when I’m feeling mentally and emotionally on my…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    7 Habits of High Performance Moms

    Ever find yourself wondering how some moms are able to perform at such high levels? They appear successful, have a seemingly happy life, and are motivated and energetic. This super-mom can be something to be envious of when we are going through a rough patch in life and sometimes when we get into a funk we don’t think clearly and don’t know how to get out of it. Speaking from personal experience, below are the seven habits of high performance moms that I know to be true in my own life. Being a highly successful mom comes in many forms–from the executive mother to the stay at home with 5 kids,…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Having a Hard Time Finding Motivation to Workout? Try These 5 Tips!

    Have you ever felt like you have absolutely zero motivation to hit the gym? Have you ever made it to the gym only to do a half-ass workout and barely get your sweat on because you just didn’t feel like it at the time? Finding the motivation to workout can be like trying to find that sippy-cup full of milk that has been lost for a week. You flat-out don’t want to do it most of the time. This can be especially true if you are just starting your fitness journey. This happens for many reasons, mainly because we want instant results with minimal effort and it can be difficult…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Dealing With Mean Girls…..As An Adult

    There is no doubt that at some point in your life that you have had to deal with a mean girl, or even worse- mean girls! These adult bullies can appear in many forms such as a coworker, a boss, a friend of a friend, a fellow mom, a ‘frenemy’, someone from your past, or even on social media. This isn’t a topic that is touched on too much as an adult as we constantly were reminded throughout our childhood about bullies, so the subject in itself can seem childish because after all, we are adults now and should be able to ‘stick up for ourselves’ right? I vividly remember…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Wish You Could Respond To Stress Better? Try These 6 Tips!

    If you’re anything like me, you oftentimes find yourself kicking yourself in the rear for how you reacted to a stressful situation. When I get stressed I tend to lash out on the nearest bystander- not a good look for someone who is trying to #slay motherhood as my actions can sometimes undercut my goals of rewiring my brain to remain calm, cool, and collected in the face of stress. My response is usually irrational because when I am triggered by an activating event, it leads to an escalation of thoughts aka ‘racing thoughts’. Sometimes the event is huge and a stressful reaction is warranted (example: house on fire, traumatic…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    5 Reasons Why You Need To Create A Daily Routine.

    Something I realized while serving in the military, was that I liked it when someone was bossing me around. The yelling didn’t get to me, it was soothing in a weird, please, don’t destroy me, kind of way. My military girlfriends and I still joke about how amazing it would be to have someone following us around all day, telling us when we were slacking off and demand that we do our daily workout. It could be that I’m an Aries so I appreciated the strong-headedness, I also love a good challenge, but I still wish I had someone like that in my life today. That fairy tale, however, is a…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

    We all have them: personality traits, behaviors, moods, reactions, or habits that we wish we didn’t posses. Whether you get road rage easily, lash out when you’re upset, smoke cigarettes, or binge-eat when your stressed (I could list thousands of others but you get the idea), but there is no denying that all of us are human and all of us have some things we wish we could change about our brain and how it responds or reacts. I have heard over the years when other people describe their negative traits, they also say, ‘well, thats just who I am’. False. What if I told you that you can change…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    The Power of Setting Boundaries

    We all have them– relationships with friends, family, coworkers, or in laws that drain you emotionally and energetically. You see the phone ring, or a text come through and you feel yourself instantly dreading the upcoming interaction. This doesn’t apply to just people and relationships, the draining feeling can arise from a variety of different situations and commitments that you have gotten yourself in to. I know for me, there has been many times that I had committed to something that I truly didn’t want to do and absolutely dreaded that commitment, which in turn, put me in a foul mood and drained my energy. Now, I want you to…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Explanation.”

    “You don’t owe anyone an explanation,” a comment my husband made to me early 2016 when I was in the middle of a full-blown panic attack. It was a time when I had significant personal breakthroughs, but instead of rejoicing these discoveries I began worrying about how I was going to explain my way of life to those around me. Those six words struck my core and set me on a path of total self-love and being the best wife and mother possible. I now have them permanently taped to my bathroom mirror as a daily reminder to live my life for me and the happiness of my family. A…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Ring in the New Year with A New Perspective.

    When people say that history is bound to repeat itself, we tend to think of critical events like mass extinctions, revolutions, and crumbling empires but rarely do we ever point the finger back at ourselves and our failed attempts to better our lives. That can be a harsh reality to face. With the New Year just around the corner, some of you are in the process of planning your near future with those infamous New Year Resolutions. You’re jotting down your lists, making plans, cutting up magazines and creating your vision boards (no, that’s just me?), to tackle your new goals. Exciting right? I think so! I have one question…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Advice & Tips To Help Prevent Mothers From Losing Their Shit!

    We’ve all been there, burned out, stressed out, and completely spread thin. I feel like moms experience this frequently due to the endless duties, responsibilities, and oftentimes lack of appreciation that comes along with being a mother. My question is, why do we wait until we are on the brink of a nervous breakdown before we realize this? Wouldn’t it be easier if we switched our method of handling and coping with this stress to prevention mode rather than crisis mode? There have been so many times where I have experienced this and I noticed a common theme almost every time, when I would feel this way- on the verge of a…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Stop Comparing your Weaknesses to their Strengths!

    A common theme I notice amongst people in general, not just mothers, is the constant comparison between others and themselves. Comparing isn’t some horrible thing to do, it actually can be a useful tool for measuring where your strengths and weaknesses are, however in my opinion, the only thing you need to be comparing are sale prices, Yelp reviews, and before & after photos. I also have noticed a common issue amongst women who compare frequently and that is a lack of self-esteem. I personally think that when you compare, you are already coming from a place of lack and that is the wrong perspective in my opinion. When you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How to Snap Out of the Victimhood Mentality and Start Enjoying Life!

    I wanted to talk  about the victimhood mentality that has taken over my generation, the Millennials. It seems like everywhere you turn, Millennials can be seen bitching, moaning, and being ‘outraged’. Combine it with perpetuating fact-lacking propaganda fueled by hormones and a desire to be seen as a ‘revolutionary’ and we have got ourselves a recipe for disaster. The trend of being the first to point out micro-aggressions, shaming, and the demand for safe spaces is how the term ‘Snowflake’ evolved as this group of young people have an emotional state that is seemingly as ‘delicate as a Snowflake’.   Let me make something clear before I move on. I don’t think…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Why you Need to Start Saying NO!

    I used to be one of those people called a people pleaser. If you read my post about understanding your past and how it shapes your current behavior, you can easily understand how I came to be that way. What I didn’t realize was how much of an emotional toll that possessing this seemingly positive trait would take on my mental health. So many of us are caught up in the struggle of wanting people to accept us, to like us, and to belong. This is nothing to be ashamed of, it is part of our essence of being human. You just have to learn how to juggle the people-pleasing part…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    How Understanding Your Past Can Make You A Better Mom

    I think it is absolutely critical for personal growth and happiness to understand your own psychological makeup. People usually do this type of deep self-reflecting in a therapist’s office, but if you haven’t been able to see a therapist, you can supplement with reading self-help material and understanding your own psychology, personality, and your past. It wasn’t until I was studying for my Bachelor’s in Psychology that I realized how my past shaped who I was as an adult. I knew I was different from many others, I came from a broken home, was exposed to many traumatic situations, my mother was a severe alcoholic (and still struggles to this day),…

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