• Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: The Difficulty Of Friendship and The Secrets To Making Them Last.

    Making friends is easy when you’re fun, kind and welcoming, but keeping them, however, is an entirely different story, especially if you suffer from anxiety and depression. As a woman who has dealt with mental health issues for as long as I can remember, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I will have to live with a lot of acquaintances. Even though I wish that weren’t the case, it’s where my life lessons have brought me. I’m sure some people from my past may believe I’m awful because I couldn’t live up to certain expectations or I came off cold more times than I would like, and that’s…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Dealing With Mean Girls…..As An Adult

    There is no doubt that at some point in your life that you have had to deal with a mean girl, or even worse- mean girls! These adult bullies can appear in many forms such as a coworker, a boss, a friend of a friend, a fellow mom, a ‘frenemy’, someone from your past, or even on social media. This isn’t a topic that is touched on too much as an adult as we constantly were reminded throughout our childhood about bullies, so the subject in itself can seem childish because after all, we are adults now and should be able to ‘stick up for ourselves’ right? I vividly remember…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Wish You Could Respond To Stress Better? Try These 6 Tips!

    If you’re anything like me, you oftentimes find yourself kicking yourself in the rear for how you reacted to a stressful situation. When I get stressed I tend to lash out on the nearest bystander- not a good look for someone who is trying to #slay motherhood as my actions can sometimes undercut my goals of rewiring my brain to remain calm, cool, and collected in the face of stress. My response is usually irrational because when I am triggered by an activating event, it leads to an escalation of thoughts aka ‘racing thoughts’. Sometimes the event is huge and a stressful reaction is warranted (example: house on fire, traumatic…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    5 Reasons Why You Need To Create A Daily Routine.

    Something I realized while serving in the military, was that I liked it when someone was bossing me around. The yelling didn’t get to me, it was soothing in a weird, please, don’t destroy me, kind of way. My military girlfriends and I still joke about how amazing it would be to have someone following us around all day, telling us when we were slacking off and demand that we do our daily workout. It could be that I’m an Aries so I appreciated the strong-headedness, I also love a good challenge, but I still wish I had someone like that in my life today. That fairy tale, however, is a…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

    We all have them: personality traits, behaviors, moods, reactions, or habits that we wish we didn’t posses. Whether you get road rage easily, lash out when you’re upset, smoke cigarettes, or binge-eat when your stressed (I could list thousands of others but you get the idea), but there is no denying that all of us are human and all of us have some things we wish we could change about our brain and how it responds or reacts. I have heard over the years when other people describe their negative traits, they also say, ‘well, thats just who I am’. False. What if I told you that you can change…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I Didn’t Throw My Daughter A Birthday Party.

    Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our daughter’s fifth birthday! BUT, here’s the thing, We didn’t, and we’re not going to, throw her a birthday party. Not throwing her that Pinterest perfect party was something that made me feel incredibly guilty. I mean…it weighed on me like a ton of bricks!!! I had thought about it so much, about throwing her a party and how I was going to make this dream party happen for her, but as the weeks went by I realized that it just wasn’t in the cards. This choice was even harder when I began to compare this year to her previous birthdays and what we…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    The Power of Setting Boundaries

    We all have them– relationships with friends, family, coworkers, or in laws that drain you emotionally and energetically. You see the phone ring, or a text come through and you feel yourself instantly dreading the upcoming interaction. This doesn’t apply to just people and relationships, the draining feeling can arise from a variety of different situations and commitments that you have gotten yourself in to. I know for me, there has been many times that I had committed to something that I truly didn’t want to do and absolutely dreaded that commitment, which in turn, put me in a foul mood and drained my energy. Now, I want you to…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Explanation.”

    “You don’t owe anyone an explanation,” a comment my husband made to me early 2016 when I was in the middle of a full-blown panic attack. It was a time when I had significant personal breakthroughs, but instead of rejoicing these discoveries I began worrying about how I was going to explain my way of life to those around me. Those six words struck my core and set me on a path of total self-love and being the best wife and mother possible. I now have them permanently taped to my bathroom mirror as a daily reminder to live my life for me and the happiness of my family. A…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Ring in the New Year with A New Perspective.

    When people say that history is bound to repeat itself, we tend to think of critical events like mass extinctions, revolutions, and crumbling empires but rarely do we ever point the finger back at ourselves and our failed attempts to better our lives. That can be a harsh reality to face. With the New Year just around the corner, some of you are in the process of planning your near future with those infamous New Year Resolutions. You’re jotting down your lists, making plans, cutting up magazines and creating your vision boards (no, that’s just me?), to tackle your new goals. Exciting right? I think so! I have one question…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Advice & Tips To Help Prevent Mothers From Losing Their Shit!

    We’ve all been there, burned out, stressed out, and completely spread thin. I feel like moms experience this frequently due to the endless duties, responsibilities, and oftentimes lack of appreciation that comes along with being a mother. My question is, why do we wait until we are on the brink of a nervous breakdown before we realize this? Wouldn’t it be easier if we switched our method of handling and coping with this stress to prevention mode rather than crisis mode? There have been so many times where I have experienced this and I noticed a common theme almost every time, when I would feel this way- on the verge of a…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Stop Comparing your Weaknesses to their Strengths!

    A common theme I notice amongst people in general, not just mothers, is the constant comparison between others and themselves. Comparing isn’t some horrible thing to do, it actually can be a useful tool for measuring where your strengths and weaknesses are, however in my opinion, the only thing you need to be comparing are sale prices, Yelp reviews, and before & after photos. I also have noticed a common issue amongst women who compare frequently and that is a lack of self-esteem. I personally think that when you compare, you are already coming from a place of lack and that is the wrong perspective in my opinion. When you…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    How to Cope When Your Toddler Is Being An A-Hole

    It’s 8:03 am and I am writing this with dried tears on my face. Instead of having a nice waking-up experience, my (almost) 3-year-old rolls over and starts kicking and hitting me. This is a standard morning routine and for the life of me, I cannot understand why he hits me so much. I calmly say ‘don’t hit mommy, use your words, what do you need’ and then all of a sudden– I catch a fist straight to the nose. I immediately start bawling because if you’ve ever been hit in the nose, the tears are an automatic reaction… I put my son in his bedroom for time-out and shut…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How to Snap Out of the Victimhood Mentality and Start Enjoying Life!

    I wanted to talk  about the victimhood mentality that has taken over my generation, the Millennials. It seems like everywhere you turn, Millennials can be seen bitching, moaning, and being ‘outraged’. Combine it with perpetuating fact-lacking propaganda fueled by hormones and a desire to be seen as a ‘revolutionary’ and we have got ourselves a recipe for disaster. The trend of being the first to point out micro-aggressions, shaming, and the demand for safe spaces is how the term ‘Snowflake’ evolved as this group of young people have an emotional state that is seemingly as ‘delicate as a Snowflake’.   Let me make something clear before I move on. I don’t think…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Why you Need to Start Saying NO!

    I used to be one of those people called a people pleaser. If you read my post about understanding your past and how it shapes your current behavior, you can easily understand how I came to be that way. What I didn’t realize was how much of an emotional toll that possessing this seemingly positive trait would take on my mental health. So many of us are caught up in the struggle of wanting people to accept us, to like us, and to belong. This is nothing to be ashamed of, it is part of our essence of being human. You just have to learn how to juggle the people-pleasing part…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    How Understanding Your Past Can Make You A Better Mom

    I think it is absolutely critical for personal growth and happiness to understand your own psychological makeup. People usually do this type of deep self-reflecting in a therapist’s office, but if you haven’t been able to see a therapist, you can supplement with reading self-help material and understanding your own psychology, personality, and your past. It wasn’t until I was studying for my Bachelor’s in Psychology that I realized how my past shaped who I was as an adult. I knew I was different from many others, I came from a broken home, was exposed to many traumatic situations, my mother was a severe alcoholic (and still struggles to this day),…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Practice Self-Care on a Daily Basis

    All mothers out there know how difficult it can be to perform at their best in all of the roles that we occupy each day. Between chaotic morning routines, schedule cramming, grocery shopping, work, school, and general running-the-household duties- it is common for self-care to fall at the bottom of the priority list. You have heard the phrase ‘being a mother is a thankless job’ and on some days the stress of this responsibility is crippling. As you can imagine, it is easy to get ‘down in the dumps’ while being a mom and I personally think that neglecting self care is the root cause of it. Think about it,…

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