• Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Picking Up the Pieces

    I remember sorting through photos as I was packing my belongings that I would be taking with me when I moved out and I felt such a bittersweet wave of emotions and tears take over, which was somewhat confusing because after all- I was the one who wanted this. Was I sad? Of course, however, I knew that as I packed each box, I was leaving behind all of the pieces of myself and the last 9 years that no longer serve who I am today. This was such a symbolic thing for me to do because although divorce can be difficult, it is also the rebirthing of who you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    From ‘I Do’ To ‘I’m Done’; My Journey Through Divorce

    To say the last year has been easy would be a lie, I just haven’t shared with the world what has been really going on, so here it is…. Dave and I have decided to get a divorce. There, I said it out loud. I have never been one to air my drama on any sort of platform, but we have so many friendships we have built with people all over the country that I felt this was the best outlet to ‘announce’ it. After all, for months I have been getting messages from friends and family asking the status of our marriage as the posts have slowly come to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Sometimes taking a break is exactly what you need…

    You may have noticed, Amber and I have taken a hiatus from posting on the blog and keeping up with our social media accounts. This isn’t because we don’t appreciate each and every one of our readers, or that we don’t love writing on the blog- it’s because we both came to a point in life where posting was becoming more of an obligation rather than an organic occurrence. You see, Amber and I both live extremely busy lives and the amount of time, energy, and effort to put out something that isn’t complete shit can be taxing on someone who has a full time, has young kids at home,…

  • Mental Health

    Surviving Thanksgiving – Mental Health Tips & Tricks For The Big Gathering

    Thanksgiving Day, by far one of my favorite days of the year. So many amazing memories of my childhood run through my mind that surround my late grandmother’s home and her pineapple raisin sauce, and there’s this positive energy that I can’t ignore. I love the food’s AMAZING aroma hanging heavy in the air. My large family gathering in tight quarters where it’s nearly impossible to walk from one area to the next without squeezing between or walking over people. The enthusiastic conversations with loved ones who you haven’t seen in months or even years. Endless laughter with a side of bickering. Children playing and causing mayhem. The continual flow of…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    What To Eat When Something (i.e. anxiety, stress, trauma, etc.) Is Eating At You

    In my early twenties, at a point in my life when I didn’t know which way was up and I was mistreating myself if every sense of the word,  I began to feel this deep-seated pain in my stomach that I had no control over. Every morning my stomach was replaced by this weight, and when I thought about eating, it made me sick. Water and coffee typically carried me through until the evening when I’d force myself, force myself, to eat. I knew I needed something and I wanted to eat, I couldn’t enjoy the food around me as I had before; it was as if my brain was…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Keeping Your Mind & Body Healthy Throughout the Holidays

    It’s getting to be that time of year ladies- it is mid October and I have already been partaking in the seasonal splurge. I mean, how can you go into Trader Joe’s and not snag a box or three of their seasonal cookies or a pumpkin chai loaf? With so many temptations around us and the onset of the holidays, resisting the urge hasn’t been something that I have been putting effort in, and boy and I starting to feel it. Not only do I feel sluggish from the intake of too many treats and junk, but my midsection is feeling bloated and large, yikes! But most importantly- I feel crabby and…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Get Your Priorities Straight, Sister!

    Time has to be one of the most widely used excuses ever. We use it to get out of doing something, to push projects to the side, and we use it to justify the things we say and do. Being a working mom with an active duty husband who is frequently gone, the time excuse isn’t really an excuse, it’s a part of my life. I used to find myself constantly apologizing for the crunched schedule that is my life, but why should I? Everyone who knows me, knows that my cup-runneth-over. to put it lightly. Between not getting home until 5:00 pm, to cooking dinner, cleaning the house, trying to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Shining Light On Toxic Behaviors

    Toxic behaviors. I wish I knew how to put into words just how challenging writing this article has been for me. I’ve come back for weeks now, pouring my heart and soul into words, only then to delete it all because it’s just so much. It makes me feel vulnerable. It makes me feel ashamed. The reason why it’s difficult for me to talk about toxic behaviors is that even though I’m no longer the person I used to be, much of my past still haunts me and causes a lot of guilt. I know that everyone makes mistakes and that we all have to grow from our history, but a massive part…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity

    Find Your Motivation With The Five-Second Rule

    This morning I woke up at 4:13 A.M. excited, motivated, and determined. No snooze. No need for a second alarm. No huffing or puffing. I jumped out of bed naturally to my newly purchased ringtone that played one of NASA’s rockets launching into space, got dressed, and made my way to the gym while my husband and daughter slept silently, all as if it was nothing like I had been doing it for years. “Start before you’re ready. Don’t prepare, begin.” -Mel Robbins If I took you back two months, two weeks, even just two days ago, you wouldn’t see someone who looked or acted that motivated. NOPE, but you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Sorry, Not Sorry.

    For those who are ready to let the judgements, insecurities, the weight of whatever holds them back, finally go. If this speaks to you -find a quiet place where you can be alone and continue while you read out loud.  I’m sorry, not sorry… I get that there’s a chance -a very likely possibility- that some may not understand me. They don’t know why I’ve made certain decisions in my life. They may not know why I process thoughts, handle situations, or react the way I do. They, you, may not even recognize me. That I am a creative mess. That I’m a mess in general. That I am a…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    5 Steps to Reset After You Have Lost Your $h!t

    If there is one thing that every mother on earth has in common with other moms it is that we have all lost our shit a few times. Yes- we also have many other things in common despite our differences, but we all unconditionally love our children, we all want them to be happy and healthy, and our love runs so deep that we would be willing to sacrifice our life for our child if it came down to it. Not to beat the point to death, but we all love our children deeply, but sometimes they can be downright little jerks and when you add that onto an already…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Mental Health First, Momma!

    It seems like the topic of mental health only comes up after an awful tragedy happens. Perhaps you heard of a friend who passed away from suicide or there was another murder or mass shooting on the news. It seems that as soon as we begin the healing process of the last tragedy, another one comes from left field and slaps us with the brutal realization that there are people struggling with mental health all around us. We try to peel back the layers of what happened that led that person to commit suicide or murder and some of them had the signs written all over the wall and sometimes…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Feeling Burnt Out? Here’s 9 (FAMILY FRIENDLY) Ways To Self-Care During Your Busy Summer

    Who else is exhausted? I don’t know if it’s the heat without A.C. (curse you Alaskan homes for only having in-home forced heat), the unforgiving sunshine or the overly-tired children being extra whiny -but Momma needs some serious recovery. That’s why I’m dedicating this weekend to self-care regimes that I know will help me unwind and decompress, and refuel. Refueling is paramount during the summer! I want to let the family have fun but I also need to maintain that energy that has us getting out in the first place. It’s all about and having fun without burning out as a family -especially while the sun still sits high in the…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Rudeness: The Weak Person’s Imitation of Strength

    In today’s world, rudeness is virtually everywhere. When I say virtually, it is especially present on the many social media platforms that are a huge part of our lives. There are two types of rudeness: direct and indirect. As you can imagine, direct rudeness would be someone being directly rude to another person and indirect rudeness would be rudeness more on the passive-aggressive side. As a grown woman and a mother to boot, I particularly want to shield my children from rudeness. However, life had other plans and we can’t protect our kids from everything. They will at some point in their children be picked on, excluded, or bullied by…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Parental Separation Anxiety: Why Summer Camp Was A Must For Me

    When a good friend of mine reached out to me with the idea that our daughters would go to summer camp together this year, I was over the moon ecstatic. My first thought: this would be the perfect preparation for kindergarten, and so far at day one I realize that…I have a lot of work to do, not so much my baby girl. I didn’t realize just how severe my parental separation anxiety was because up to this point I’ve never had to walk away and believe that strangers will keep my daughter safe, and the situation is more emotional than I ever imagined. The way parenthood has played out…

  • Mental Health

    Mind Chatter and Social Anxiety

    You’ve probably heard the phrase ‘I’m going to have a drink to loosen up’ or perhaps you have said this yourself. Well- you are not alone. Social anxiety is a disorder that affects millions of Americans each year and according to the Social Anxiety Institute, it is the third largest mental health condition in the world. What is social anxiety exactly? Well, it is pretty self explanatory but social anxiety rears it’s ugly head in the form of nervousness, anxiousness, and severe uncomfortableness when someone is placed in social situations. The thought of having to be introduced to new people, making small talk, meeting important people, eating in front of people,…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I’m Open and Honest With My Daughter About Mental Health

    Being honest with my daughter about mental health has always been a priority for me. Truthfully, I never had a choice, I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life, and even when I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been, it’s still there haunting me. I always imagined that it would eventually just fade away but if anything motherhood just brought on an entirely new mental health journey to face. Being the incredibly emotional and sensitive person that I am the last thing I could do was avoid the topic of mental health. “You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Get My Happy & Healthy Back – An Emotional & Physical Detox

    Are you… Waking up tired even after a full nights sleep and remaining fatigued? Suffering from headaches? Finding it hard to keep your mind sharp or on track? Experiencing skin irritation, dryness, redness, or acne? Have irregular menstrual cycles or menstrual problems? Finding it hard to lose weight? Letting your negative emotions get the upper hand? Suffering from inflammation? Experiencing bloating and constipation? Craving certain foods like sweets and carbs? Losing your appetites? Tired of the dark circles under your eyes? Experiencing mood swings or irritability? Suffering from bad breath or body odor? Maybe you’re experiencing one or two of these things, maybe even five or more! If you are,…

  • Mental Health,  Productivity

    Do You Fully Understand Your Personality?

    You have probably seen personality tests floating around on Facebook where you take a quick questionnaire to find out which Disney Princess you are or which city you should ideally live in, but have you ever taken a psychology-backed personality test? Are you 100% sure that you know the ins and outs of yourself? Your strengths, your weaknesses, your quirks, what sets you off, your ideal career path? Personally, I think that understanding your personality in it’s entirety is absolutely critical for overall wellbeing, effectiveness at work, and navigating relationships as successfully as you can. Sure- your presence and the way you carry yourself can say a lot about who you…

  • Mental Health

    Anxiety Makes Me My Own Worst Enemy

    I hate that anxiety has the power that makes me believe that I am my worst enemy. Deep down in my depths, I know that it’s not me, it’s my anxiety, but at times it’s so powerful that I genuinely believe that it’s true and I fight with myself more than anything else in this life. The thing is I have all the tools, and I use them, but I’m not to that point yet where I am free of my anxiety. I have healthy ways to manage stress. I’m honest about my feelings. I’m active. I recognize negative signs immediately. I practice mindfulness. I implement thought change. BUT STILL…

  • Mental Health

    You Are Not Your Past

    We have all experienced it: intense remorse or regret over something that we have done. Maybe we said something out of anger or maybe we behaved in a way that is not in alignment with who we are. No matter how big or small the mistake was, the truth is- we are all humans and we have all made them. It could have been something as small as a speeding ticket or something so big it landed you in jail. Whatever the case may be, there is always a silver lining in our mistakes- even if it is difficult to see at first. Some of our greatest strides in personal…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Do You Know If It’s Time To Walk Away From A Toxic Relationship?

    There is an old metaphor from the Philippines called the ‘crab mentality’ that helps me understand the motivations behind crappy human behavior. You have a barrel full of live crabs, some of which can easily escape, and the ones who try escaping get pulled back down by the other crabs with the mindset of ‘if I can’t have it, neither can you’. This is a perfect metaphor to describe human behavior that is particularly useful in spotting toxic friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, and working relationships. It describes the feelings and actions that others may take when someone else is experiencing success; they seek to ‘pull them down’ out of…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    To Forgive and Let Live – What Forgiveness Is & How We Reach It

    When painful wrongdoings of the past continue to creep their way into your future, it’s hard to move beyond them, but you owe it to yourself to try. Right? Absolutely, yes. The only thing is, you think you’re over something that has haunted you only for the memory (big or small) to resurface at the most inopportune time -talk about anxiety that is hard to explain. When we’re hurt emotionally, it leaves such marks that can resurface at any moment and can be unbearable which is why it requires gentle care. For me, forgiveness isn’t always easy, and I know isn’t easy for you either. The thing is, we can’t and…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Finances, Emotional Intelligence, and Orgasms -Oh My! The Many Sides of Self-Care That No One’s Talking About

    Self-care isn’t direct -it’s multi-faceted, and is most successful when treated as such. Like a diamond that’s been pushed down time and time again while feeling the pressure of the world, to finally becoming one of the most precious gemstones that refuses to break -we too require the love and care needed to shine so brightly.   Diamonds aren’t a girl’s best friend, self-care is. You’re the diamond, Sister!     The thing is, self-care has become just another thing most women are expected to be great at, or it’s assumed to be something we naturally know how to do, but that’s not the case -whatsoever. We aren’t born understanding what self-care is;…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    What Exactly Is Mindfulness And Why Is Everyone Talking About It?

    If you are unfamiliar with the holistic or new age community- you probably hear the term mindfulness and picture someone drinking their cold pressed organic wheat grass juice while patting off their forehead sweat from their hot yoga session in a cave in Sedona. It turns out, a lot of new age and Eastern views of emotional and physical health can be healed and cured without conventional medicine or pharmaceuticals. Over recent years, psychologists, therapists, and neuroscientists are all recognizing the amazing emotional and physical benefits that people can achieve with mindfulness. But what is mindfulness exactly? Although I believe that everybody can benefit from practicing mindfulness, it is particularly…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    The Ugly Side Of Motherhood Nobody Prepared Us For

    We have all heard the phrase ‘the good, the bad, and the ugly’ and when I thought about this phrase regarding motherhood, I assumed that the good was the sweet baby giggles, that the bad was the lack of sleep and that the ugly was the diaper blow outs. However, I think all of us can agree that the real ‘ugly’ part of motherhood doesn’t get talked about nowhere near as much as the sleepless nights or diaper blow-outs. I know for me personally, the ‘ugly’ part of motherhood that I was absolutely not prepared for was the bouts of depression and isolation that I would often experience, the difficulty…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How To Find Calm Amidst The Chaos

    Hi everyone- my name is Sam and I am a recovering stress bomb. For the vast majority of my 28 years, stress is something I wasn’t able to cope with well- at all. I never managed it properly for a variety of reasons, but now as an adult who choses to live consciously, I am making a conscious decision everyday to keep my cool and find zen amidst the chaos of motherhood & adulthood. Chaos and stress does not discriminate – ALL of us, whether we are parents, single, married, young, old, rich, or poor- can’t escape stress. The good news is, we can be more mindful in our coping…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Learning To Love Your ‘Imperfections’

    To be honest, at first, I didn’t know how to go about the topic of body and beauty and what many see as imperfections. I was worried that women would take offense because I didn’t want to be THAT PERSON claiming that bushy eyebrows and stretch marks are considered flaws in the first place. The truth is, I don’t feel those are imperfections at all, although some may, especially if you have them yourself because let’s face it…we are our worst critiques. I’m just going to put myself out there for this one. I’m not saying that because I love my flaws and ‘imperfections’ that I don’t have ten extra…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Why Women Judge Each Other And Why It Has To Stop

    We are ALL guilty of judging other women whether we want to admit that or not. We oftentimes make judgements about other woman based on surface level assumptions such as their appearance or demeanor. Perhaps this woman was prettier than you, or heavier than you, was wearing something revealing, or her children were behaving like animals- we make judgements about people every single day. We may even make a snide comment to our friend about the judgement we just made about that other woman. Have you ever felt judged? It doesn’t feel very good does it? I have felt judged in a million different ways and in a million different situations. Whether it…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Fighting The Winter Blues & Seasonal Affective Disorder: New Evidence As To Why We’re Feeling So Down.

    Even now, when I am entirely aware of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), how the short days and extremely long nights can manipulate my mental health, it’s still not an easy time. Every year when the days grow shorter, so do my nerves – I become agitated in situations that I usually would just let go, I lose my energy, I begin to numb my emotions, my enthusiasm seeks hibernation, the weight piles on, my inner voice becomes more critical than ever, and I retreat as much as I can from social gatherings. For as long as I can remember this has been my reality, and it wasn’t until I heard…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    It’s Never Too Late To Tell A New Story About Yourself

    Have you ever met a person who lived and breathed their problems? A Debbie-Downer type that seems to bring a rain cloud with them wherever they go. They dwell on the negative, they are victims of everything, and seem to put a damper on everyone around them. These people are fairly easy to spot, but I want you to think about the ways that you breathe life into your problems. What are the things you complain about the most? You see, when you complain all day and to everyone about your issues, you are reiterating that narrative to yourself that you do in fact have those problems. I’ve met tons of…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Why All Moms Who ‘Let Themselves Go’ Need To Get Themselves Back

    We have all heard the phrase ‘she really let herself go after kids’ or we know someone who fits the description. This phrase is usually aimed at the stressed-out looking mom rocking sweat pants and slippers in public far too often with her hair in a mess and obviously gives zero F’s about her appearance. Whether it was retaining the baby weight for a little too long, putting zero effort into your appearance, wearing pajamas all day, or going through a phase of being unpleasant to be around and lazy. Let’s be honest for a moment- we have all been there at some point and to some degree. The difference between…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Got Myself Motivated With 1 Easy Trick

    We all know a gal or two who is annoyingly positive, energetic, optimistic, and all around overly motivated. Said woman can be dubbed as a super mom who not only works, raises kids, has a seemingly perfect marriage, and still finds time to make homemade play dough and Pinterest-worthy meals on the regular. I have had several friends like this throughout my adult life and I used to silently judge them and compare myself to them, which made me feel like shit to tell you the truth.     I would compare their strong areas to the areas that I lacked. I would justify the differences in motivation between us…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Strengthening Structure & Responsibility By Creating A Reward System For Your Child

    Sometimes our children’s behavior and routine can get away from us because being that “perfect” parent, always hitting the mark, isn’t possible. That doesn’t mean we don’t go crazy trying to make it happen though -trying one form of discipline and parenting style after another until something sticks. If there was one thing I could be perfect at, I wish it was being a mother but life has shown me time and time again that it’s not going to happen -all we can do is our best. That’s why I continue to find ways that help bring positive structure to our home before reaching that point of chaos. Unfortunately for…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Even The ‘Best’ Marriages Go Through Hard Times & It’s Time We Start Talking About It

    It seems as though everywhere you look, everyone’s marriage seems picture-perfect, at least in the fantasy land we call social media. It is a widely known ‘no-no’ to air our dirty laundry on social media and on the rare occasion someone does, we grab the popcorn and listen to the tea being spilled. We wouldn’t dare do this ourselves because it would be embarrassing and we don’t need to update our hundreds of acquaintances with every detail post-marital scandal. After all, some things should remain off social media, right? Seeing everyone’s highlight reels of their seemingly perfect marriage can sting when you are going through a hard time in yours.…

  • Mental Health

    Panic Attacks Are A Bitch.

    Panic attacks are a bitch. It’s as if the weight of the world has suddenly landed on your chest, your thoughts have gone rogue, and you’ve developed the energy level of a cat that decided to practice its acrobatic skills in the middle of the night in a small apartment. Seeing that I just woke up from a dead sleep, having a full-blown panic at 3:30 A.M. I figured now would be a good time as any to talk about how to ease your attack and start to have more rational and calming thoughts to address what’s causing your anxiety. Ways that can quickly help you find your breath again. ✨BREATHE!…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Sustaining A Strong & Healthy Marriage Through Honest Communication & Vulnerability

    When we’re feeling awful about ourselves and life has us a mess, having a vulnerable and honest conversation about mental health with your spouse can be difficult if you don’t know where to start. These discussions can be especially tricky if you don’t recognize your warning signs yet or if you’re at a place in your journey where denial still holds considerable strength. For example, when you’re having continuous negative thoughts that you can’t control. You’re starting to resent your husband for the things that he is or isn’t doing around the house but don’t speak up. You begin feeling emotionally numb or having strong, erratic emotional upsets. Start to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Getting in the Gym, Got Me Out of My Head.

    Depression & Anxiety are terms that are constantly thrown around these days. I have met many people who have never experienced depression or anxiety, and I have met people who had crippling experiences with it. I used to really beat myself up for being the type of person that nobody would ever think would struggle with these two demons, but it was a daily fight that I was excellent at hiding behind a smile and my sense of humor. Not only did I beat myself up for living a double life, I used to beat myself up over the fact that my problems that led to this were seemingly small compared…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: Don’t Let Energetic Clutter Sabotage Your Success & Enthusiasm

    Have you been there? That moment when you’re on a roll, slaying some serious goals, and then all of a sudden you feel this overwhelming and overburdening anxiety start to slip in? Sometimes when we’re on that theoretical Mommaslaying high, feeling powerful and responsible, we forget that we need to step back and reset ourselves. When your Mommaslay train is going full speed ahead, and you’re trying to stay on track but feel like you’re about to derail, it could be that you forgot to do some vital maintenance; it’s time to clear out that energetic clutter.   Speaking from personal experience, when I’m feeling mentally and emotionally on my…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    7 Habits of High Performance Moms

    Ever find yourself wondering how some moms are able to perform at such high levels? They appear successful, have a seemingly happy life, and are motivated and energetic. This super-mom can be something to be envious of when we are going through a rough patch in life and sometimes when we get into a funk we don’t think clearly and don’t know how to get out of it. Speaking from personal experience, below are the seven habits of high performance moms that I know to be true in my own life. Being a highly successful mom comes in many forms–from the executive mother to the stay at home with 5 kids,…

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