• Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Picking Up the Pieces

    I remember sorting through photos as I was packing my belongings that I would be taking with me when I moved out and I felt such a bittersweet wave of emotions and tears take over, which was somewhat confusing because after all- I was the one who wanted this. Was I sad? Of course, however, I knew that as I packed each box, I was leaving behind all of the pieces of myself and the last 9 years that no longer serve who I am today. This was such a symbolic thing for me to do because although divorce can be difficult, it is also the rebirthing of who you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    From ‘I Do’ To ‘I’m Done’; My Journey Through Divorce

    To say the last year has been easy would be a lie, I just haven’t shared with the world what has been really going on, so here it is…. Dave and I have decided to get a divorce. There, I said it out loud. I have never been one to air my drama on any sort of platform, but we have so many friendships we have built with people all over the country that I felt this was the best outlet to ‘announce’ it. After all, for months I have been getting messages from friends and family asking the status of our marriage as the posts have slowly come to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Sometimes taking a break is exactly what you need…

    You may have noticed, Amber and I have taken a hiatus from posting on the blog and keeping up with our social media accounts. This isn’t because we don’t appreciate each and every one of our readers, or that we don’t love writing on the blog- it’s because we both came to a point in life where posting was becoming more of an obligation rather than an organic occurrence. You see, Amber and I both live extremely busy lives and the amount of time, energy, and effort to put out something that isn’t complete shit can be taxing on someone who has a full time, has young kids at home,…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Keeping Your Mind & Body Healthy Throughout the Holidays

    It’s getting to be that time of year ladies- it is mid October and I have already been partaking in the seasonal splurge. I mean, how can you go into Trader Joe’s and not snag a box or three of their seasonal cookies or a pumpkin chai loaf? With so many temptations around us and the onset of the holidays, resisting the urge hasn’t been something that I have been putting effort in, and boy and I starting to feel it. Not only do I feel sluggish from the intake of too many treats and junk, but my midsection is feeling bloated and large, yikes! But most importantly- I feel crabby and…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Get Your Priorities Straight, Sister!

    Time has to be one of the most widely used excuses ever. We use it to get out of doing something, to push projects to the side, and we use it to justify the things we say and do. Being a working mom with an active duty husband who is frequently gone, the time excuse isn’t really an excuse, it’s a part of my life. I used to find myself constantly apologizing for the crunched schedule that is my life, but why should I? Everyone who knows me, knows that my cup-runneth-over. to put it lightly. Between not getting home until 5:00 pm, to cooking dinner, cleaning the house, trying to…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    5 Steps to Reset After You Have Lost Your $h!t

    If there is one thing that every mother on earth has in common with other moms it is that we have all lost our shit a few times. Yes- we also have many other things in common despite our differences, but we all unconditionally love our children, we all want them to be happy and healthy, and our love runs so deep that we would be willing to sacrifice our life for our child if it came down to it. Not to beat the point to death, but we all love our children deeply, but sometimes they can be downright little jerks and when you add that onto an already…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Mental Health First, Momma!

    It seems like the topic of mental health only comes up after an awful tragedy happens. Perhaps you heard of a friend who passed away from suicide or there was another murder or mass shooting on the news. It seems that as soon as we begin the healing process of the last tragedy, another one comes from left field and slaps us with the brutal realization that there are people struggling with mental health all around us. We try to peel back the layers of what happened that led that person to commit suicide or murder and some of them had the signs written all over the wall and sometimes…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Rudeness: The Weak Person’s Imitation of Strength

    In today’s world, rudeness is virtually everywhere. When I say virtually, it is especially present on the many social media platforms that are a huge part of our lives. There are two types of rudeness: direct and indirect. As you can imagine, direct rudeness would be someone being directly rude to another person and indirect rudeness would be rudeness more on the passive-aggressive side. As a grown woman and a mother to boot, I particularly want to shield my children from rudeness. However, life had other plans and we can’t protect our kids from everything. They will at some point in their children be picked on, excluded, or bullied by…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Productivity

    No. More. Excuses!

    We all know someone that is full of excuses. Whether it be about their weight, their health, their financial situation, relationship circumstances, or whatever- there are simply people out there who refuse true ownership over their problems and resort to making constant excuses. What these people fail to realize is that most people can see right through those excuses and truthfully, listening to them constantly is flat out exhausting. People use excuses as a way to take the burden of responsibility off of their shoulders and justify their problems. Let me make something clear- we ALL make excuses. The difference is letting excuses run your life and using them as…

  • Motherhood

    Why I Don’t Feel Guilty About Working Full Time

    I can’t tell you how many times I have heard comments from other moms asking me if I feel guilty about choosing to work full time instead of staying home. Or the hundreds of times over the years I have heard moms ragging on another mom’s decision to go back into the work force. A study conducted by workingmom.com found that 57% of moms feel guilty about working. Conversely, a Harvard Business School study found that kids actually fare better in the long run when their mothers work outside of the home! The whole subject of being a working mom is a hot topic and one size definitely doesn’t fit…

  • Mental Health

    Mind Chatter and Social Anxiety

    You’ve probably heard the phrase ‘I’m going to have a drink to loosen up’ or perhaps you have said this yourself. Well- you are not alone. Social anxiety is a disorder that affects millions of Americans each year and according to the Social Anxiety Institute, it is the third largest mental health condition in the world. What is social anxiety exactly? Well, it is pretty self explanatory but social anxiety rears it’s ugly head in the form of nervousness, anxiousness, and severe uncomfortableness when someone is placed in social situations. The thought of having to be introduced to new people, making small talk, meeting important people, eating in front of people,…

  • Motherhood

    A Mother’s Day Confession

    They were not lying when they said that being a mom is a thankless job. Between packing lunches, folding laundry, kissing boo-boos, and wiping butts- it is a rare occasion that our duties get the appreciation that is deserved. We get one day each year where people around the world celebrate the beauty, strength, resilience, and love that moms selflessly give their children, however, I can’t help but wish we had a Mother’s Day each month! On this Mother’s Day, I am feeling defeated yet grateful- if that makes any sense! I am grateful that I have two healthy children but I am defeated with this past week as it…

  • Mental Health,  Productivity

    Do You Fully Understand Your Personality?

    You have probably seen personality tests floating around on Facebook where you take a quick questionnaire to find out which Disney Princess you are or which city you should ideally live in, but have you ever taken a psychology-backed personality test? Are you 100% sure that you know the ins and outs of yourself? Your strengths, your weaknesses, your quirks, what sets you off, your ideal career path? Personally, I think that understanding your personality in it’s entirety is absolutely critical for overall wellbeing, effectiveness at work, and navigating relationships as successfully as you can. Sure- your presence and the way you carry yourself can say a lot about who you…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Bree @Binteriors

    Bree is a military wife and mother of one who recently moved across country from California to Virginia. Bree runs a Home and Lifestyle Blog, www.BinteriorsDesign.com that covers everything from her career as an interior designer, decorator, party planner, and furniture maker as well as her recipes, her experiences as a wife and being a momma. Design has been a lifelong passion of Bree’s and she is extremely grateful to see it take shape. Her hobbies include cooking, working out, snowboarding, loving on her cat, thrift shopping, upcycling, DIYing, gardening, going to country concerts, and wine tasting! A fun fact about Bree- she is in a #relationshipgoals meme!  How do…

  • Mental Health

    You Are Not Your Past

    We have all experienced it: intense remorse or regret over something that we have done. Maybe we said something out of anger or maybe we behaved in a way that is not in alignment with who we are. No matter how big or small the mistake was, the truth is- we are all humans and we have all made them. It could have been something as small as a speeding ticket or something so big it landed you in jail. Whatever the case may be, there is always a silver lining in our mistakes- even if it is difficult to see at first. Some of our greatest strides in personal…

  • Marriage & Relationships

    7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage Strong In The Face Of A Storm

    At some point or another, all marriages will go through turbulent patches. The list of reasons why could literally go on forever, but some of the most common reasons are: financial troubles, parenting differences, infidelity, lack of trust, family and friend related drama, lack of communication, career challenges, addiction, personality clashes, depression, physical appearance changes, sickness, grief, moving, or external family stress and pressure. All couples should know when they get married that life is not going to be 100% happy, loving, and Instagram worthy as life has a way of throwing us curve balls when we least expect it. Real life is messy; people change, people let themselves go,…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Megan McCallum

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex. We come from all different backgrounds, which gives every one of us a unique perspective of what a successful mom looks like. What does that look like to us? What is a Mommaslayer exactly? A Mommaslayer is someone who pushes through adversity. Who picks themselves up, dusts their shoulders off, and continues moving forward despite the struggles that life brings. They let their struggles fuel them to become better versions of themselves and they don’t make excuses. They take care of themselves mentally and physically because they know that when they are doing so- they are better mothers as…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Do You Know If It’s Time To Walk Away From A Toxic Relationship?

    There is an old metaphor from the Philippines called the ‘crab mentality’ that helps me understand the motivations behind crappy human behavior. You have a barrel full of live crabs, some of which can easily escape, and the ones who try escaping get pulled back down by the other crabs with the mindset of ‘if I can’t have it, neither can you’. This is a perfect metaphor to describe human behavior that is particularly useful in spotting toxic friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, and working relationships. It describes the feelings and actions that others may take when someone else is experiencing success; they seek to ‘pull them down’ out of…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Leiah Muller

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex. We come from all different backgrounds, which gives every one of us a unique perspective of what a successful mom looks like. What does that look like to us? What is a Mommaslayer exactly? A Mommaslayer is someone who pushes through adversity. Who picks themselves up, dusts their shoulders off, and continues moving forward despite the struggles that life brings. They use their struggles and life experiences to make them strong instead of using it as an excuse to be weak They take care of themselves mentally and physically because they know that when they are doing so- they…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    What Exactly Is Mindfulness And Why Is Everyone Talking About It?

    If you are unfamiliar with the holistic or new age community- you probably hear the term mindfulness and picture someone drinking their cold pressed organic wheat grass juice while patting off their forehead sweat from their hot yoga session in a cave in Sedona. It turns out, a lot of new age and Eastern views of emotional and physical health can be healed and cured without conventional medicine or pharmaceuticals. Over recent years, psychologists, therapists, and neuroscientists are all recognizing the amazing emotional and physical benefits that people can achieve with mindfulness. But what is mindfulness exactly? Although I believe that everybody can benefit from practicing mindfulness, it is particularly…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Betsey Pepas

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex.  We come from all different backgrounds, ethnicities, and socio-economic statuses, which gives every single one of us a unique perspective on life. What unites all of us though, is motherhood and more often than not we have a lot more in common than we have in differences. We wanted to shine a spotlight on some of true Mommaslayers who deserve a shout out. Whether these women are business owners, military members, working moms, stay at home moms, widowed moms, moms on weight loss journeys, or moms who just slay motherhood- we wanted to give them a shout out and…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Stacy Willis

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex.  We come from all different backgrounds, ethnicities, and socio-economic statuses, which gives every single one of us a unique perspective on life. What unites all of us though- is motherhood and more often than not- all of us mothers have a lot more in common than we have in differences. We wanted to shine a spotlight on some of our favorite Mommaslayers who truly deserve a shout out. Whether these women are business owners, military members, working moms, stay at home moms, widowed moms, moms on weight loss journeys, military wives, or moms who just slay at motherhood- we wanted…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    The Ugly Side Of Motherhood Nobody Prepared Us For

    We have all heard the phrase ‘the good, the bad, and the ugly’ and when I thought about this phrase regarding motherhood, I assumed that the good was the sweet baby giggles, that the bad was the lack of sleep and that the ugly was the diaper blow outs. However, I think all of us can agree that the real ‘ugly’ part of motherhood doesn’t get talked about nowhere near as much as the sleepless nights or diaper blow-outs. I know for me personally, the ‘ugly’ part of motherhood that I was absolutely not prepared for was the bouts of depression and isolation that I would often experience, the difficulty…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How To Find Calm Amidst The Chaos

    Hi everyone- my name is Sam and I am a recovering stress bomb. For the vast majority of my 28 years, stress is something I wasn’t able to cope with well- at all. I never managed it properly for a variety of reasons, but now as an adult who choses to live consciously, I am making a conscious decision everyday to keep my cool and find zen amidst the chaos of motherhood & adulthood. Chaos and stress does not discriminate – ALL of us, whether we are parents, single, married, young, old, rich, or poor- can’t escape stress. The good news is, we can be more mindful in our coping…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Why Women Judge Each Other And Why It Has To Stop

    We are ALL guilty of judging other women whether we want to admit that or not. We oftentimes make judgements about other woman based on surface level assumptions such as their appearance or demeanor. Perhaps this woman was prettier than you, or heavier than you, was wearing something revealing, or her children were behaving like animals- we make judgements about people every single day. We may even make a snide comment to our friend about the judgement we just made about that other woman. Have you ever felt judged? It doesn’t feel very good does it? I have felt judged in a million different ways and in a million different situations. Whether it…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    It’s Never Too Late To Tell A New Story About Yourself

    Have you ever met a person who lived and breathed their problems? A Debbie-Downer type that seems to bring a rain cloud with them wherever they go. They dwell on the negative, they are victims of everything, and seem to put a damper on everyone around them. These people are fairly easy to spot, but I want you to think about the ways that you breathe life into your problems. What are the things you complain about the most? You see, when you complain all day and to everyone about your issues, you are reiterating that narrative to yourself that you do in fact have those problems. I’ve met tons of…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Why All Moms Who ‘Let Themselves Go’ Need To Get Themselves Back

    We have all heard the phrase ‘she really let herself go after kids’ or we know someone who fits the description. This phrase is usually aimed at the stressed-out looking mom rocking sweat pants and slippers in public far too often with her hair in a mess and obviously gives zero F’s about her appearance. Whether it was retaining the baby weight for a little too long, putting zero effort into your appearance, wearing pajamas all day, or going through a phase of being unpleasant to be around and lazy. Let’s be honest for a moment- we have all been there at some point and to some degree. The difference between…

  • Self Care

    How 1 Skin Care Brand Changed My Life & My Mind About Direct Sales Forever

    My name is Sam and I am a beauty & skincare product addict. I am a salesman’s dream client. Any average salesman could tell me about the latest and greatest beauty, skincare, hair, or health product and I was sold. If I could add up the amount of money I have spent on these types of products over the last ten years, I could probably buy a brand new car, in cash. I would see stars with beauty products to the point that I wouldn’t even consider the possibility that these products may not work or perhaps are a waste of money. I remember when Amber and I graduated Navy boot…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Who Knew That Making Mom Friends Would Be So Hard?

    I’ve always been the type of girl that never lacked in the ‘girl friends’ category. I had always found that making friends with women was effortless and deemed myself a ‘girl’s girl’ a very long time ago. Sure, I had lost some friends or cut friends out of my life for various reasons, but overall I never lacked or struggled in the friend category; until I became a mom. I knew that motherhood would present it’s own challenges, but I was never prepared for the complete change in dynamic that would occur when it came to courting and maintaining friendships. I compare having mom friends as an adult to playing chess…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Got Myself Motivated With 1 Easy Trick

    We all know a gal or two who is annoyingly positive, energetic, optimistic, and all around overly motivated. Said woman can be dubbed as a super mom who not only works, raises kids, has a seemingly perfect marriage, and still finds time to make homemade play dough and Pinterest-worthy meals on the regular. I have had several friends like this throughout my adult life and I used to silently judge them and compare myself to them, which made me feel like shit to tell you the truth.     I would compare their strong areas to the areas that I lacked. I would justify the differences in motivation between us…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Even The ‘Best’ Marriages Go Through Hard Times & It’s Time We Start Talking About It

    It seems as though everywhere you look, everyone’s marriage seems picture-perfect, at least in the fantasy land we call social media. It is a widely known ‘no-no’ to air our dirty laundry on social media and on the rare occasion someone does, we grab the popcorn and listen to the tea being spilled. We wouldn’t dare do this ourselves because it would be embarrassing and we don’t need to update our hundreds of acquaintances with every detail post-marital scandal. After all, some things should remain off social media, right? Seeing everyone’s highlight reels of their seemingly perfect marriage can sting when you are going through a hard time in yours.…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Getting in the Gym, Got Me Out of My Head.

    Depression & Anxiety are terms that are constantly thrown around these days. I have met many people who have never experienced depression or anxiety, and I have met people who had crippling experiences with it. I used to really beat myself up for being the type of person that nobody would ever think would struggle with these two demons, but it was a daily fight that I was excellent at hiding behind a smile and my sense of humor. Not only did I beat myself up for living a double life, I used to beat myself up over the fact that my problems that led to this were seemingly small compared…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    7 Habits of High Performance Moms

    Ever find yourself wondering how some moms are able to perform at such high levels? They appear successful, have a seemingly happy life, and are motivated and energetic. This super-mom can be something to be envious of when we are going through a rough patch in life and sometimes when we get into a funk we don’t think clearly and don’t know how to get out of it. Speaking from personal experience, below are the seven habits of high performance moms that I know to be true in my own life. Being a highly successful mom comes in many forms–from the executive mother to the stay at home with 5 kids,…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Having a Hard Time Finding Motivation to Workout? Try These 5 Tips!

    Have you ever felt like you have absolutely zero motivation to hit the gym? Have you ever made it to the gym only to do a half-ass workout and barely get your sweat on because you just didn’t feel like it at the time? Finding the motivation to workout can be like trying to find that sippy-cup full of milk that has been lost for a week. You flat-out don’t want to do it most of the time. This can be especially true if you are just starting your fitness journey. This happens for many reasons, mainly because we want instant results with minimal effort and it can be difficult…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Dealing With Mean Girls…..As An Adult

    There is no doubt that at some point in your life that you have had to deal with a mean girl, or even worse- mean girls! These adult bullies can appear in many forms such as a coworker, a boss, a friend of a friend, a fellow mom, a ‘frenemy’, someone from your past, or even on social media. This isn’t a topic that is touched on too much as an adult as we constantly were reminded throughout our childhood about bullies, so the subject in itself can seem childish because after all, we are adults now and should be able to ‘stick up for ourselves’ right? I vividly remember…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Wish You Could Respond To Stress Better? Try These 6 Tips!

    If you’re anything like me, you oftentimes find yourself kicking yourself in the rear for how you reacted to a stressful situation. When I get stressed I tend to lash out on the nearest bystander- not a good look for someone who is trying to #slay motherhood as my actions can sometimes undercut my goals of rewiring my brain to remain calm, cool, and collected in the face of stress. My response is usually irrational because when I am triggered by an activating event, it leads to an escalation of thoughts aka ‘racing thoughts’. Sometimes the event is huge and a stressful reaction is warranted (example: house on fire, traumatic…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

    We all have them: personality traits, behaviors, moods, reactions, or habits that we wish we didn’t posses. Whether you get road rage easily, lash out when you’re upset, smoke cigarettes, or binge-eat when your stressed (I could list thousands of others but you get the idea), but there is no denying that all of us are human and all of us have some things we wish we could change about our brain and how it responds or reacts. I have heard over the years when other people describe their negative traits, they also say, ‘well, thats just who I am’. False. What if I told you that you can change…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    The Power of Setting Boundaries

    We all have them– relationships with friends, family, coworkers, or in laws that drain you emotionally and energetically. You see the phone ring, or a text come through and you feel yourself instantly dreading the upcoming interaction. This doesn’t apply to just people and relationships, the draining feeling can arise from a variety of different situations and commitments that you have gotten yourself in to. I know for me, there has been many times that I had committed to something that I truly didn’t want to do and absolutely dreaded that commitment, which in turn, put me in a foul mood and drained my energy. Now, I want you to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Advice & Tips To Help Prevent Mothers From Losing Their Shit!

    We’ve all been there, burned out, stressed out, and completely spread thin. I feel like moms experience this frequently due to the endless duties, responsibilities, and oftentimes lack of appreciation that comes along with being a mother. My question is, why do we wait until we are on the brink of a nervous breakdown before we realize this? Wouldn’t it be easier if we switched our method of handling and coping with this stress to prevention mode rather than crisis mode? There have been so many times where I have experienced this and I noticed a common theme almost every time, when I would feel this way- on the verge of a…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Stop Comparing your Weaknesses to their Strengths!

    A common theme I notice amongst people in general, not just mothers, is the constant comparison between others and themselves. Comparing isn’t some horrible thing to do, it actually can be a useful tool for measuring where your strengths and weaknesses are, however in my opinion, the only thing you need to be comparing are sale prices, Yelp reviews, and before & after photos. I also have noticed a common issue amongst women who compare frequently and that is a lack of self-esteem. I personally think that when you compare, you are already coming from a place of lack and that is the wrong perspective in my opinion. When you…

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