• Mental Health

    Surviving Thanksgiving – Mental Health Tips & Tricks For The Big Gathering

    Thanksgiving Day, by far one of my favorite days of the year. So many amazing memories of my childhood run through my mind that surround my late grandmother’s home and her pineapple raisin sauce, and there’s this positive energy that I can’t ignore. I love the food’s AMAZING aroma hanging heavy in the air. My large family gathering in tight quarters where it’s nearly impossible to walk from one area to the next without squeezing between or walking over people. The enthusiastic conversations with loved ones who you haven’t seen in months or even years. Endless laughter with a side of bickering. Children playing and causing mayhem. The continual flow of…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    What To Eat When Something (i.e. anxiety, stress, trauma, etc.) Is Eating At You

    In my early twenties, at a point in my life when I didn’t know which way was up and I was mistreating myself if every sense of the word,  I began to feel this deep-seated pain in my stomach that I had no control over. Every morning my stomach was replaced by this weight, and when I thought about eating, it made me sick. Water and coffee typically carried me through until the evening when I’d force myself, force myself, to eat. I knew I needed something and I wanted to eat, I couldn’t enjoy the food around me as I had before; it was as if my brain was…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Shining Light On Toxic Behaviors

    Toxic behaviors. I wish I knew how to put into words just how challenging writing this article has been for me. I’ve come back for weeks now, pouring my heart and soul into words, only then to delete it all because it’s just so much. It makes me feel vulnerable. It makes me feel ashamed. The reason why it’s difficult for me to talk about toxic behaviors is that even though I’m no longer the person I used to be, much of my past still haunts me and causes a lot of guilt. I know that everyone makes mistakes and that we all have to grow from our history, but a massive part…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity

    Find Your Motivation With The Five-Second Rule

    This morning I woke up at 4:13 A.M. excited, motivated, and determined. No snooze. No need for a second alarm. No huffing or puffing. I jumped out of bed naturally to my newly purchased ringtone that played one of NASA’s rockets launching into space, got dressed, and made my way to the gym while my husband and daughter slept silently, all as if it was nothing like I had been doing it for years. “Start before you’re ready. Don’t prepare, begin.” -Mel Robbins If I took you back two months, two weeks, even just two days ago, you wouldn’t see someone who looked or acted that motivated. NOPE, but you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Sorry, Not Sorry.

    For those who are ready to let the judgements, insecurities, the weight of whatever holds them back, finally go. If this speaks to you -find a quiet place where you can be alone and continue while you read out loud.  I’m sorry, not sorry… I get that there’s a chance -a very likely possibility- that some may not understand me. They don’t know why I’ve made certain decisions in my life. They may not know why I process thoughts, handle situations, or react the way I do. They, you, may not even recognize me. That I am a creative mess. That I’m a mess in general. That I am a…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    What Is A Mommaslayer?

    What is a Mommaslayer? Well simply put, a Mommaslayer is someone who is slaying life’s journey as a woman and mother!   Does this mean you are free of burdens, mental health struggles, doubts, or imperfections? Quite the opposite!! We want to hear from women who are succeeding (by their own definition) in spite of their struggles. Could this be you or someone you know? Let us know!   Everyone has a unique journey, and we want to know more about yours because we believe TOGETHER we can inspire, grow, and overcome.   –Have you struggled with your mental health? –Do you strive every single day to better yourself? –Have you…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Feeling Burnt Out? Here’s 9 (FAMILY FRIENDLY) Ways To Self-Care During Your Busy Summer

    Who else is exhausted? I don’t know if it’s the heat without A.C. (curse you Alaskan homes for only having in-home forced heat), the unforgiving sunshine or the overly-tired children being extra whiny -but Momma needs some serious recovery. That’s why I’m dedicating this weekend to self-care regimes that I know will help me unwind and decompress, and refuel. Refueling is paramount during the summer! I want to let the family have fun but I also need to maintain that energy that has us getting out in the first place. It’s all about and having fun without burning out as a family -especially while the sun still sits high in the…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Self Care

    The Courage To Grow

    All of us at one point or another have felt, and even some of us RIGHT NOW *I know I am* are feeling life-altering growing pains. I’m not talking about the growing pains that we experienced during our childhood or our pregnancies, when our bodies pulled, stretched, and expanded as we slept, which yes, were painful. But the passing times of life’s many teachable moments that have us figuratively and energetically extending as we walk through each day -eye’s wide open or sometimes shut- becoming our highest form of self.   Self-Growth.  Self-Realization.  Self-Empowerment. Self-Improvement.   There have been and will be moments in life when we don’t even realize…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Parental Separation Anxiety: Why Summer Camp Was A Must For Me

    When a good friend of mine reached out to me with the idea that our daughters would go to summer camp together this year, I was over the moon ecstatic. My first thought: this would be the perfect preparation for kindergarten, and so far at day one I realize that…I have a lot of work to do, not so much my baby girl. I didn’t realize just how severe my parental separation anxiety was because up to this point I’ve never had to walk away and believe that strangers will keep my daughter safe, and the situation is more emotional than I ever imagined. The way parenthood has played out…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Motherhood

    My Home Is My Haven -Even On The Worst Of Days

    Home is my haven, but I’m going to divulge that sometimes there are days when home itself is what drives me mad in the first place even when there is no real explanation as to why -days like today. *takes a deep breath* The thing is, I woke up in this feisty mood and I have no idea why other than the fact that I’m a woman with a neverending list of responsibilities and a repetition of housework that can sometimes be maddening. I keep telling myself that it’s okay, that this is normal, that this is the life of a mom and sometimes we hit limits. But, the funny…

  • Motherhood

    Forget Perfect, Let’s Be Present Mothers

    Wherever You Are Be All There. -Jim Elliot I’ve decidedly grown to despise the word perfect over the past few years. It’s no longer in my vocabulary as a way to compare myself to others in any way, shape, or form -and I’m glad I have because no one is. When I relate my actions today to the mom I was one, two, three, four, even five years ago…I don’t, haha. You see, removing this idea that I could become a perfect anything has saved me from a lot of pain, heartache, and especially mom guilt. The only time we should ever use the term “perfect” in a sentence is if…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I’m Open and Honest With My Daughter About Mental Health

    Being honest with my daughter about mental health has always been a priority for me. Truthfully, I never had a choice, I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life, and even when I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been, it’s still there haunting me. I always imagined that it would eventually just fade away but if anything motherhood just brought on an entirely new mental health journey to face. Being the incredibly emotional and sensitive person that I am the last thing I could do was avoid the topic of mental health. “You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Get My Happy & Healthy Back – An Emotional & Physical Detox

    Are you… Waking up tired even after a full nights sleep and remaining fatigued? Suffering from headaches? Finding it hard to keep your mind sharp or on track? Experiencing skin irritation, dryness, redness, or acne? Have irregular menstrual cycles or menstrual problems? Finding it hard to lose weight? Letting your negative emotions get the upper hand? Suffering from inflammation? Experiencing bloating and constipation? Craving certain foods like sweets and carbs? Losing your appetites? Tired of the dark circles under your eyes? Experiencing mood swings or irritability? Suffering from bad breath or body odor? Maybe you’re experiencing one or two of these things, maybe even five or more! If you are,…

  • Mental Health

    Anxiety Makes Me My Own Worst Enemy

    I hate that anxiety has the power that makes me believe that I am my worst enemy. Deep down in my depths, I know that it’s not me, it’s my anxiety, but at times it’s so powerful that I genuinely believe that it’s true and I fight with myself more than anything else in this life. The thing is I have all the tools, and I use them, but I’m not to that point yet where I am free of my anxiety. I have healthy ways to manage stress. I’m honest about my feelings. I’m active. I recognize negative signs immediately. I practice mindfulness. I implement thought change. BUT STILL…

  • Motherhood

    Laughable Moments: 35 Indications That You May Just Have Mom Brain

    When I heard that ‘mom brain’ never went away, I didn’t want to believe it, but as the years go by I’m starting to realize that it’s true and the only thing we can do about it is to laugh it off! My daughter just turned five, and here I am still unable to remember how old I am, I mean come on! I’m also having moments like this morning where I’m dumping coffee grounds where the water is meant to go in my Bunn coffee maker. If you haven’t followed us on Instagram, head over to @mommaslay.official and take a look for yourself -it was a real SMH moment.…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    To Forgive and Let Live – What Forgiveness Is & How We Reach It

    When painful wrongdoings of the past continue to creep their way into your future, it’s hard to move beyond them, but you owe it to yourself to try. Right? Absolutely, yes. The only thing is, you think you’re over something that has haunted you only for the memory (big or small) to resurface at the most inopportune time -talk about anxiety that is hard to explain. When we’re hurt emotionally, it leaves such marks that can resurface at any moment and can be unbearable which is why it requires gentle care. For me, forgiveness isn’t always easy, and I know isn’t easy for you either. The thing is, we can’t and…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Finances, Emotional Intelligence, and Orgasms -Oh My! The Many Sides of Self-Care That No One’s Talking About

    Self-care isn’t direct -it’s multi-faceted, and is most successful when treated as such. Like a diamond that’s been pushed down time and time again while feeling the pressure of the world, to finally becoming one of the most precious gemstones that refuses to break -we too require the love and care needed to shine so brightly.   Diamonds aren’t a girl’s best friend, self-care is. You’re the diamond, Sister!     The thing is, self-care has become just another thing most women are expected to be great at, or it’s assumed to be something we naturally know how to do, but that’s not the case -whatsoever. We aren’t born understanding what self-care is;…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Learning To Love Your ‘Imperfections’

    To be honest, at first, I didn’t know how to go about the topic of body and beauty and what many see as imperfections. I was worried that women would take offense because I didn’t want to be THAT PERSON claiming that bushy eyebrows and stretch marks are considered flaws in the first place. The truth is, I don’t feel those are imperfections at all, although some may, especially if you have them yourself because let’s face it…we are our worst critiques. I’m just going to put myself out there for this one. I’m not saying that because I love my flaws and ‘imperfections’ that I don’t have ten extra…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Fighting The Winter Blues & Seasonal Affective Disorder: New Evidence As To Why We’re Feeling So Down.

    Even now, when I am entirely aware of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), how the short days and extremely long nights can manipulate my mental health, it’s still not an easy time. Every year when the days grow shorter, so do my nerves – I become agitated in situations that I usually would just let go, I lose my energy, I begin to numb my emotions, my enthusiasm seeks hibernation, the weight piles on, my inner voice becomes more critical than ever, and I retreat as much as I can from social gatherings. For as long as I can remember this has been my reality, and it wasn’t until I heard…

  • Motherhood,  Productivity

    It’s Time To Buckle Down and ‘Boss’ Up, Mommas

    Imagine waking up first thing in the morning, before everyone else and having this incredible sense of power behind you. You’re sitting comfortably in your favorite spot, the house is silent, your cup of coffee to the right, your planner open. A few weekly chores here and there. Today it’s patching the hole in the playroom drywall from when the kids were roughhousing and wiping down the blinds. The normal every day must-dos too like vacuuming, washing dishes, and doing laundry. A few hours set aside to catch up on a few work projects. Soccer practice for Jason. Meeting the hubs at school for Sarah’s ballet recital. A quick grocery store trip to pick up…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Strengthening Structure & Responsibility By Creating A Reward System For Your Child

    Sometimes our children’s behavior and routine can get away from us because being that “perfect” parent, always hitting the mark, isn’t possible. That doesn’t mean we don’t go crazy trying to make it happen though -trying one form of discipline and parenting style after another until something sticks. If there was one thing I could be perfect at, I wish it was being a mother but life has shown me time and time again that it’s not going to happen -all we can do is our best. That’s why I continue to find ways that help bring positive structure to our home before reaching that point of chaos. Unfortunately for…

  • Mental Health

    Panic Attacks Are A Bitch.

    Panic attacks are a bitch. It’s as if the weight of the world has suddenly landed on your chest, your thoughts have gone rogue, and you’ve developed the energy level of a cat that decided to practice its acrobatic skills in the middle of the night in a small apartment. Seeing that I just woke up from a dead sleep, having a full-blown panic at 3:30 A.M. I figured now would be a good time as any to talk about how to ease your attack and start to have more rational and calming thoughts to address what’s causing your anxiety. Ways that can quickly help you find your breath again. ✨BREATHE!…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Sustaining A Strong & Healthy Marriage Through Honest Communication & Vulnerability

    When we’re feeling awful about ourselves and life has us a mess, having a vulnerable and honest conversation about mental health with your spouse can be difficult if you don’t know where to start. These discussions can be especially tricky if you don’t recognize your warning signs yet or if you’re at a place in your journey where denial still holds considerable strength. For example, when you’re having continuous negative thoughts that you can’t control. You’re starting to resent your husband for the things that he is or isn’t doing around the house but don’t speak up. You begin feeling emotionally numb or having strong, erratic emotional upsets. Start to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: Don’t Let Energetic Clutter Sabotage Your Success & Enthusiasm

    Have you been there? That moment when you’re on a roll, slaying some serious goals, and then all of a sudden you feel this overwhelming and overburdening anxiety start to slip in? Sometimes when we’re on that theoretical Mommaslaying high, feeling powerful and responsible, we forget that we need to step back and reset ourselves. When your Mommaslay train is going full speed ahead, and you’re trying to stay on track but feel like you’re about to derail, it could be that you forgot to do some vital maintenance; it’s time to clear out that energetic clutter.   Speaking from personal experience, when I’m feeling mentally and emotionally on my…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Living With Anxiety & Depression: The Difficulty Of Friendship and The Secrets To Making Them Last.

    Making friends is easy when you’re fun, kind and welcoming, but keeping them, however, is an entirely different story, especially if you suffer from anxiety and depression. As a woman who has dealt with mental health issues for as long as I can remember, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I will have to live with a lot of acquaintances. Even though I wish that weren’t the case, it’s where my life lessons have brought me. I’m sure some people from my past may believe I’m awful because I couldn’t live up to certain expectations or I came off cold more times than I would like, and that’s…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    5 Reasons Why You Need To Create A Daily Routine.

    Something I realized while serving in the military, was that I liked it when someone was bossing me around. The yelling didn’t get to me, it was soothing in a weird, please, don’t destroy me, kind of way. My military girlfriends and I still joke about how amazing it would be to have someone following us around all day, telling us when we were slacking off and demand that we do our daily workout. It could be that I’m an Aries so I appreciated the strong-headedness, I also love a good challenge, but I still wish I had someone like that in my life today. That fairy tale, however, is a…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I Didn’t Throw My Daughter A Birthday Party.

    Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our daughter’s fifth birthday! BUT, here’s the thing, We didn’t, and we’re not going to, throw her a birthday party. Not throwing her that Pinterest perfect party was something that made me feel incredibly guilty. I mean…it weighed on me like a ton of bricks!!! I had thought about it so much, about throwing her a party and how I was going to make this dream party happen for her, but as the weeks went by I realized that it just wasn’t in the cards. This choice was even harder when I began to compare this year to her previous birthdays and what we…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    “You Don’t Owe Anyone An Explanation.”

    “You don’t owe anyone an explanation,” a comment my husband made to me early 2016 when I was in the middle of a full-blown panic attack. It was a time when I had significant personal breakthroughs, but instead of rejoicing these discoveries I began worrying about how I was going to explain my way of life to those around me. Those six words struck my core and set me on a path of total self-love and being the best wife and mother possible. I now have them permanently taped to my bathroom mirror as a daily reminder to live my life for me and the happiness of my family. A…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Ring in the New Year with A New Perspective.

    When people say that history is bound to repeat itself, we tend to think of critical events like mass extinctions, revolutions, and crumbling empires but rarely do we ever point the finger back at ourselves and our failed attempts to better our lives. That can be a harsh reality to face. With the New Year just around the corner, some of you are in the process of planning your near future with those infamous New Year Resolutions. You’re jotting down your lists, making plans, cutting up magazines and creating your vision boards (no, that’s just me?), to tackle your new goals. Exciting right? I think so! I have one question…

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