• Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Picking Up the Pieces

    I remember sorting through photos as I was packing my belongings that I would be taking with me when I moved out and I felt such a bittersweet wave of emotions and tears take over, which was somewhat confusing because after all- I was the one who wanted this. Was I sad? Of course, however, I knew that as I packed each box, I was leaving behind all of the pieces of myself and the last 9 years that no longer serve who I am today. This was such a symbolic thing for me to do because although divorce can be difficult, it is also the rebirthing of who you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    From ‘I Do’ To ‘I’m Done’; My Journey Through Divorce

    To say the last year has been easy would be a lie, I just haven’t shared with the world what has been really going on, so here it is…. Dave and I have decided to get a divorce. There, I said it out loud. I have never been one to air my drama on any sort of platform, but we have so many friendships we have built with people all over the country that I felt this was the best outlet to ‘announce’ it. After all, for months I have been getting messages from friends and family asking the status of our marriage as the posts have slowly come to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Sometimes taking a break is exactly what you need…

    You may have noticed, Amber and I have taken a hiatus from posting on the blog and keeping up with our social media accounts. This isn’t because we don’t appreciate each and every one of our readers, or that we don’t love writing on the blog- it’s because we both came to a point in life where posting was becoming more of an obligation rather than an organic occurrence. You see, Amber and I both live extremely busy lives and the amount of time, energy, and effort to put out something that isn’t complete shit can be taxing on someone who has a full time, has young kids at home,…

  • Mental Health

    Surviving Thanksgiving – Mental Health Tips & Tricks For The Big Gathering

    Thanksgiving Day, by far one of my favorite days of the year. So many amazing memories of my childhood run through my mind that surround my late grandmother’s home and her pineapple raisin sauce, and there’s this positive energy that I can’t ignore. I love the food’s AMAZING aroma hanging heavy in the air. My large family gathering in tight quarters where it’s nearly impossible to walk from one area to the next without squeezing between or walking over people. The enthusiastic conversations with loved ones who you haven’t seen in months or even years. Endless laughter with a side of bickering. Children playing and causing mayhem. The continual flow of…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    What To Eat When Something (i.e. anxiety, stress, trauma, etc.) Is Eating At You

    In my early twenties, at a point in my life when I didn’t know which way was up and I was mistreating myself if every sense of the word,  I began to feel this deep-seated pain in my stomach that I had no control over. Every morning my stomach was replaced by this weight, and when I thought about eating, it made me sick. Water and coffee typically carried me through until the evening when I’d force myself, force myself, to eat. I knew I needed something and I wanted to eat, I couldn’t enjoy the food around me as I had before; it was as if my brain was…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Keeping Your Mind & Body Healthy Throughout the Holidays

    It’s getting to be that time of year ladies- it is mid October and I have already been partaking in the seasonal splurge. I mean, how can you go into Trader Joe’s and not snag a box or three of their seasonal cookies or a pumpkin chai loaf? With so many temptations around us and the onset of the holidays, resisting the urge hasn’t been something that I have been putting effort in, and boy and I starting to feel it. Not only do I feel sluggish from the intake of too many treats and junk, but my midsection is feeling bloated and large, yikes! But most importantly- I feel crabby and…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity

    Get Your Priorities Straight, Sister!

    Time has to be one of the most widely used excuses ever. We use it to get out of doing something, to push projects to the side, and we use it to justify the things we say and do. Being a working mom with an active duty husband who is frequently gone, the time excuse isn’t really an excuse, it’s a part of my life. I used to find myself constantly apologizing for the crunched schedule that is my life, but why should I? Everyone who knows me, knows that my cup-runneth-over. to put it lightly. Between not getting home until 5:00 pm, to cooking dinner, cleaning the house, trying to…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    Shining Light On Toxic Behaviors

    Toxic behaviors. I wish I knew how to put into words just how challenging writing this article has been for me. I’ve come back for weeks now, pouring my heart and soul into words, only then to delete it all because it’s just so much. It makes me feel vulnerable. It makes me feel ashamed. The reason why it’s difficult for me to talk about toxic behaviors is that even though I’m no longer the person I used to be, much of my past still haunts me and causes a lot of guilt. I know that everyone makes mistakes and that we all have to grow from our history, but a massive part…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity

    Find Your Motivation With The Five-Second Rule

    This morning I woke up at 4:13 A.M. excited, motivated, and determined. No snooze. No need for a second alarm. No huffing or puffing. I jumped out of bed naturally to my newly purchased ringtone that played one of NASA’s rockets launching into space, got dressed, and made my way to the gym while my husband and daughter slept silently, all as if it was nothing like I had been doing it for years. “Start before you’re ready. Don’t prepare, begin.” -Mel Robbins If I took you back two months, two weeks, even just two days ago, you wouldn’t see someone who looked or acted that motivated. NOPE, but you…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    Sorry, Not Sorry.

    For those who are ready to let the judgements, insecurities, the weight of whatever holds them back, finally go. If this speaks to you -find a quiet place where you can be alone and continue while you read out loud.  I’m sorry, not sorry… I get that there’s a chance -a very likely possibility- that some may not understand me. They don’t know why I’ve made certain decisions in my life. They may not know why I process thoughts, handle situations, or react the way I do. They, you, may not even recognize me. That I am a creative mess. That I’m a mess in general. That I am a…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    5 Steps to Reset After You Have Lost Your $h!t

    If there is one thing that every mother on earth has in common with other moms it is that we have all lost our shit a few times. Yes- we also have many other things in common despite our differences, but we all unconditionally love our children, we all want them to be happy and healthy, and our love runs so deep that we would be willing to sacrifice our life for our child if it came down to it. Not to beat the point to death, but we all love our children deeply, but sometimes they can be downright little jerks and when you add that onto an already…

  • Mental Health,  Self Care

    Mental Health First, Momma!

    It seems like the topic of mental health only comes up after an awful tragedy happens. Perhaps you heard of a friend who passed away from suicide or there was another murder or mass shooting on the news. It seems that as soon as we begin the healing process of the last tragedy, another one comes from left field and slaps us with the brutal realization that there are people struggling with mental health all around us. We try to peel back the layers of what happened that led that person to commit suicide or murder and some of them had the signs written all over the wall and sometimes…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    What Is A Mommaslayer?

    What is a Mommaslayer? Well simply put, a Mommaslayer is someone who is slaying life’s journey as a woman and mother!   Does this mean you are free of burdens, mental health struggles, doubts, or imperfections? Quite the opposite!! We want to hear from women who are succeeding (by their own definition) in spite of their struggles. Could this be you or someone you know? Let us know!   Everyone has a unique journey, and we want to know more about yours because we believe TOGETHER we can inspire, grow, and overcome.   –Have you struggled with your mental health? –Do you strive every single day to better yourself? –Have you…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Feeling Burnt Out? Here’s 9 (FAMILY FRIENDLY) Ways To Self-Care During Your Busy Summer

    Who else is exhausted? I don’t know if it’s the heat without A.C. (curse you Alaskan homes for only having in-home forced heat), the unforgiving sunshine or the overly-tired children being extra whiny -but Momma needs some serious recovery. That’s why I’m dedicating this weekend to self-care regimes that I know will help me unwind and decompress, and refuel. Refueling is paramount during the summer! I want to let the family have fun but I also need to maintain that energy that has us getting out in the first place. It’s all about and having fun without burning out as a family -especially while the sun still sits high in the…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Self Care

    Rudeness: The Weak Person’s Imitation of Strength

    In today’s world, rudeness is virtually everywhere. When I say virtually, it is especially present on the many social media platforms that are a huge part of our lives. There are two types of rudeness: direct and indirect. As you can imagine, direct rudeness would be someone being directly rude to another person and indirect rudeness would be rudeness more on the passive-aggressive side. As a grown woman and a mother to boot, I particularly want to shield my children from rudeness. However, life had other plans and we can’t protect our kids from everything. They will at some point in their children be picked on, excluded, or bullied by…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Self Care

    The Courage To Grow

    All of us at one point or another have felt, and even some of us RIGHT NOW *I know I am* are feeling life-altering growing pains. I’m not talking about the growing pains that we experienced during our childhood or our pregnancies, when our bodies pulled, stretched, and expanded as we slept, which yes, were painful. But the passing times of life’s many teachable moments that have us figuratively and energetically extending as we walk through each day -eye’s wide open or sometimes shut- becoming our highest form of self.   Self-Growth.  Self-Realization.  Self-Empowerment. Self-Improvement.   There have been and will be moments in life when we don’t even realize…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Productivity

    No. More. Excuses!

    We all know someone that is full of excuses. Whether it be about their weight, their health, their financial situation, relationship circumstances, or whatever- there are simply people out there who refuse true ownership over their problems and resort to making constant excuses. What these people fail to realize is that most people can see right through those excuses and truthfully, listening to them constantly is flat out exhausting. People use excuses as a way to take the burden of responsibility off of their shoulders and justify their problems. Let me make something clear- we ALL make excuses. The difference is letting excuses run your life and using them as…

  • Motherhood

    Why I Don’t Feel Guilty About Working Full Time

    I can’t tell you how many times I have heard comments from other moms asking me if I feel guilty about choosing to work full time instead of staying home. Or the hundreds of times over the years I have heard moms ragging on another mom’s decision to go back into the work force. A study conducted by workingmom.com found that 57% of moms feel guilty about working. Conversely, a Harvard Business School study found that kids actually fare better in the long run when their mothers work outside of the home! The whole subject of being a working mom is a hot topic and one size definitely doesn’t fit…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Parental Separation Anxiety: Why Summer Camp Was A Must For Me

    When a good friend of mine reached out to me with the idea that our daughters would go to summer camp together this year, I was over the moon ecstatic. My first thought: this would be the perfect preparation for kindergarten, and so far at day one I realize that…I have a lot of work to do, not so much my baby girl. I didn’t realize just how severe my parental separation anxiety was because up to this point I’ve never had to walk away and believe that strangers will keep my daughter safe, and the situation is more emotional than I ever imagined. The way parenthood has played out…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Motherhood

    My Home Is My Haven -Even On The Worst Of Days

    Home is my haven, but I’m going to divulge that sometimes there are days when home itself is what drives me mad in the first place even when there is no real explanation as to why -days like today. *takes a deep breath* The thing is, I woke up in this feisty mood and I have no idea why other than the fact that I’m a woman with a neverending list of responsibilities and a repetition of housework that can sometimes be maddening. I keep telling myself that it’s okay, that this is normal, that this is the life of a mom and sometimes we hit limits. But, the funny…

  • Motherhood

    Forget Perfect, Let’s Be Present Mothers

    Wherever You Are Be All There. -Jim Elliot I’ve decidedly grown to despise the word perfect over the past few years. It’s no longer in my vocabulary as a way to compare myself to others in any way, shape, or form -and I’m glad I have because no one is. When I relate my actions today to the mom I was one, two, three, four, even five years ago…I don’t, haha. You see, removing this idea that I could become a perfect anything has saved me from a lot of pain, heartache, and especially mom guilt. The only time we should ever use the term “perfect” in a sentence is if…

  • Mental Health

    Mind Chatter and Social Anxiety

    You’ve probably heard the phrase ‘I’m going to have a drink to loosen up’ or perhaps you have said this yourself. Well- you are not alone. Social anxiety is a disorder that affects millions of Americans each year and according to the Social Anxiety Institute, it is the third largest mental health condition in the world. What is social anxiety exactly? Well, it is pretty self explanatory but social anxiety rears it’s ugly head in the form of nervousness, anxiousness, and severe uncomfortableness when someone is placed in social situations. The thought of having to be introduced to new people, making small talk, meeting important people, eating in front of people,…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    Why I’m Open and Honest With My Daughter About Mental Health

    Being honest with my daughter about mental health has always been a priority for me. Truthfully, I never had a choice, I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life, and even when I’m the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever been, it’s still there haunting me. I always imagined that it would eventually just fade away but if anything motherhood just brought on an entirely new mental health journey to face. Being the incredibly emotional and sensitive person that I am the last thing I could do was avoid the topic of mental health. “You don’t have to be positive all the time. It’s perfectly okay to feel…

  • Motherhood

    A Mother’s Day Confession

    They were not lying when they said that being a mom is a thankless job. Between packing lunches, folding laundry, kissing boo-boos, and wiping butts- it is a rare occasion that our duties get the appreciation that is deserved. We get one day each year where people around the world celebrate the beauty, strength, resilience, and love that moms selflessly give their children, however, I can’t help but wish we had a Mother’s Day each month! On this Mother’s Day, I am feeling defeated yet grateful- if that makes any sense! I am grateful that I have two healthy children but I am defeated with this past week as it…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    How I Get My Happy & Healthy Back – An Emotional & Physical Detox

    Are you… Waking up tired even after a full nights sleep and remaining fatigued? Suffering from headaches? Finding it hard to keep your mind sharp or on track? Experiencing skin irritation, dryness, redness, or acne? Have irregular menstrual cycles or menstrual problems? Finding it hard to lose weight? Letting your negative emotions get the upper hand? Suffering from inflammation? Experiencing bloating and constipation? Craving certain foods like sweets and carbs? Losing your appetites? Tired of the dark circles under your eyes? Experiencing mood swings or irritability? Suffering from bad breath or body odor? Maybe you’re experiencing one or two of these things, maybe even five or more! If you are,…

  • Mental Health,  Productivity

    Do You Fully Understand Your Personality?

    You have probably seen personality tests floating around on Facebook where you take a quick questionnaire to find out which Disney Princess you are or which city you should ideally live in, but have you ever taken a psychology-backed personality test? Are you 100% sure that you know the ins and outs of yourself? Your strengths, your weaknesses, your quirks, what sets you off, your ideal career path? Personally, I think that understanding your personality in it’s entirety is absolutely critical for overall wellbeing, effectiveness at work, and navigating relationships as successfully as you can. Sure- your presence and the way you carry yourself can say a lot about who you…

  • Mental Health

    Anxiety Makes Me My Own Worst Enemy

    I hate that anxiety has the power that makes me believe that I am my worst enemy. Deep down in my depths, I know that it’s not me, it’s my anxiety, but at times it’s so powerful that I genuinely believe that it’s true and I fight with myself more than anything else in this life. The thing is I have all the tools, and I use them, but I’m not to that point yet where I am free of my anxiety. I have healthy ways to manage stress. I’m honest about my feelings. I’m active. I recognize negative signs immediately. I practice mindfulness. I implement thought change. BUT STILL…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Bree @Binteriors

    Bree is a military wife and mother of one who recently moved across country from California to Virginia. Bree runs a Home and Lifestyle Blog, www.BinteriorsDesign.com that covers everything from her career as an interior designer, decorator, party planner, and furniture maker as well as her recipes, her experiences as a wife and being a momma. Design has been a lifelong passion of Bree’s and she is extremely grateful to see it take shape. Her hobbies include cooking, working out, snowboarding, loving on her cat, thrift shopping, upcycling, DIYing, gardening, going to country concerts, and wine tasting! A fun fact about Bree- she is in a #relationshipgoals meme!  How do…

  • Mental Health

    You Are Not Your Past

    We have all experienced it: intense remorse or regret over something that we have done. Maybe we said something out of anger or maybe we behaved in a way that is not in alignment with who we are. No matter how big or small the mistake was, the truth is- we are all humans and we have all made them. It could have been something as small as a speeding ticket or something so big it landed you in jail. Whatever the case may be, there is always a silver lining in our mistakes- even if it is difficult to see at first. Some of our greatest strides in personal…

  • Motherhood

    Laughable Moments: 35 Indications That You May Just Have Mom Brain

    When I heard that ‘mom brain’ never went away, I didn’t want to believe it, but as the years go by I’m starting to realize that it’s true and the only thing we can do about it is to laugh it off! My daughter just turned five, and here I am still unable to remember how old I am, I mean come on! I’m also having moments like this morning where I’m dumping coffee grounds where the water is meant to go in my Bunn coffee maker. If you haven’t followed us on Instagram, head over to @mommaslay.official and take a look for yourself -it was a real SMH moment.…

  • Marriage & Relationships

    7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage Strong In The Face Of A Storm

    At some point or another, all marriages will go through turbulent patches. The list of reasons why could literally go on forever, but some of the most common reasons are: financial troubles, parenting differences, infidelity, lack of trust, family and friend related drama, lack of communication, career challenges, addiction, personality clashes, depression, physical appearance changes, sickness, grief, moving, or external family stress and pressure. All couples should know when they get married that life is not going to be 100% happy, loving, and Instagram worthy as life has a way of throwing us curve balls when we least expect it. Real life is messy; people change, people let themselves go,…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Megan McCallum

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex. We come from all different backgrounds, which gives every one of us a unique perspective of what a successful mom looks like. What does that look like to us? What is a Mommaslayer exactly? A Mommaslayer is someone who pushes through adversity. Who picks themselves up, dusts their shoulders off, and continues moving forward despite the struggles that life brings. They let their struggles fuel them to become better versions of themselves and they don’t make excuses. They take care of themselves mentally and physically because they know that when they are doing so- they are better mothers as…

  • Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Self Care

    How Do You Know If It’s Time To Walk Away From A Toxic Relationship?

    There is an old metaphor from the Philippines called the ‘crab mentality’ that helps me understand the motivations behind crappy human behavior. You have a barrel full of live crabs, some of which can easily escape, and the ones who try escaping get pulled back down by the other crabs with the mindset of ‘if I can’t have it, neither can you’. This is a perfect metaphor to describe human behavior that is particularly useful in spotting toxic friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, and working relationships. It describes the feelings and actions that others may take when someone else is experiencing success; they seek to ‘pull them down’ out of…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health

    To Forgive and Let Live – What Forgiveness Is & How We Reach It

    When painful wrongdoings of the past continue to creep their way into your future, it’s hard to move beyond them, but you owe it to yourself to try. Right? Absolutely, yes. The only thing is, you think you’re over something that has haunted you only for the memory (big or small) to resurface at the most inopportune time -talk about anxiety that is hard to explain. When we’re hurt emotionally, it leaves such marks that can resurface at any moment and can be unbearable which is why it requires gentle care. For me, forgiveness isn’t always easy, and I know isn’t easy for you either. The thing is, we can’t and…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Leiah Muller

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex. We come from all different backgrounds, which gives every one of us a unique perspective of what a successful mom looks like. What does that look like to us? What is a Mommaslayer exactly? A Mommaslayer is someone who pushes through adversity. Who picks themselves up, dusts their shoulders off, and continues moving forward despite the struggles that life brings. They use their struggles and life experiences to make them strong instead of using it as an excuse to be weak They take care of themselves mentally and physically because they know that when they are doing so- they…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Marriage & Relationships,  Mental Health,  Motherhood,  Productivity,  Self Care

    Finances, Emotional Intelligence, and Orgasms -Oh My! The Many Sides of Self-Care That No One’s Talking About

    Self-care isn’t direct -it’s multi-faceted, and is most successful when treated as such. Like a diamond that’s been pushed down time and time again while feeling the pressure of the world, to finally becoming one of the most precious gemstones that refuses to break -we too require the love and care needed to shine so brightly.   Diamonds aren’t a girl’s best friend, self-care is. You’re the diamond, Sister!     The thing is, self-care has become just another thing most women are expected to be great at, or it’s assumed to be something we naturally know how to do, but that’s not the case -whatsoever. We aren’t born understanding what self-care is;…

  • Healthy Lifestyle,  Mental Health,  Productivity,  Self Care

    What Exactly Is Mindfulness And Why Is Everyone Talking About It?

    If you are unfamiliar with the holistic or new age community- you probably hear the term mindfulness and picture someone drinking their cold pressed organic wheat grass juice while patting off their forehead sweat from their hot yoga session in a cave in Sedona. It turns out, a lot of new age and Eastern views of emotional and physical health can be healed and cured without conventional medicine or pharmaceuticals. Over recent years, psychologists, therapists, and neuroscientists are all recognizing the amazing emotional and physical benefits that people can achieve with mindfulness. But what is mindfulness exactly? Although I believe that everybody can benefit from practicing mindfulness, it is particularly…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Betsey Pepas

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex.  We come from all different backgrounds, ethnicities, and socio-economic statuses, which gives every single one of us a unique perspective on life. What unites all of us though, is motherhood and more often than not we have a lot more in common than we have in differences. We wanted to shine a spotlight on some of true Mommaslayers who deserve a shout out. Whether these women are business owners, military members, working moms, stay at home moms, widowed moms, moms on weight loss journeys, or moms who just slay motherhood- we wanted to give them a shout out and…

  • Mommaslayer Spotlight

    Mommaslayer Spotlight: Stacy Willis

    All of our journeys as mothers are entirely unique and complex.  We come from all different backgrounds, ethnicities, and socio-economic statuses, which gives every single one of us a unique perspective on life. What unites all of us though- is motherhood and more often than not- all of us mothers have a lot more in common than we have in differences. We wanted to shine a spotlight on some of our favorite Mommaslayers who truly deserve a shout out. Whether these women are business owners, military members, working moms, stay at home moms, widowed moms, moms on weight loss journeys, military wives, or moms who just slay at motherhood- we wanted…

  • Mental Health,  Motherhood

    The Ugly Side Of Motherhood Nobody Prepared Us For

    We have all heard the phrase ‘the good, the bad, and the ugly’ and when I thought about this phrase regarding motherhood, I assumed that the good was the sweet baby giggles, that the bad was the lack of sleep and that the ugly was the diaper blow outs. However, I think all of us can agree that the real ‘ugly’ part of motherhood doesn’t get talked about nowhere near as much as the sleepless nights or diaper blow-outs. I know for me personally, the ‘ugly’ part of motherhood that I was absolutely not prepared for was the bouts of depression and isolation that I would often experience, the difficulty…

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